Break-ups are not easy. Separating yourself from someone you established a connection with is difficult. It doesn’t matter if this was a boyfriend for years, a husband or someone you dated for only a few months. When you let someone in your heart, open up about your life, share special moments and create a bond, it is tough to let it dissipate suddenly. Very rare break-ups occur without one of you seeking out the other person once or twice thereafter. Now break-ups around sentimental holidays and anniversaries can be especially difficult. Valentine’s Day is clearly one of those days. Your wedding, relationship anniversary or birthday, only you and a few others may know that holiday. Now V-Day everyone shares this holiday. Everyone you know that is coupled up is busy preparing for their evening out and basking in their own excitement. All of their activity opens up unhealed wounds, memories of special moments shared between you and your former mate.
Keri Hilson recently commented on how she feels about the holiday, confirming her break-up with Oklahoma City basketball player Serge Ibaka to The Jasmine Brand.
“This is going to be an interesting Valentine’s Day,” she said. “That’s all I’ll say. It’s going to be interesting. I’m working, I’m just busy, I’m busy. I feel like right now, music is my boyfriend. That’s how I feel, right now. So, I don’t know.”
She also shared her views on how not to “lower your standards” when seeking a mate.
“Know who you are. Umm, never drop your standards, for anyone. That’s it. And I mean that in every since of the relationship. Business, you know whatever, if there’s a certain standard that you uphold, and you’re so strong-minded. There are some things that you [can] tweak in a relationship, but not your standard. Not that.”
V-Day is just another day. Those that have a great partner, should be appreciating their partner more frequently than once a year. For the recently or seasoned single, do not get bogged down with sentimental thoughts. Keep yourself busy, maybe spend time with other single friends. Keri Hilson is buried into her music. I am sub-merged with children’s V-day events, enrichment activities and all of the other stuff that keeps my wheels spinning. This too shall pass. Don’t settle for someone who didn’t share your views in life. Like Keri says “Uphold Your Standards! Continue to be the strong woman who you are. Keep optimistic and don’t let the break-up blues overtake you.