According to People.com, George Clooney is retiring from the bachelor life. George Clooney and girlfriend, accomplished British attorney Amal Alamuddin are engaged. Sources confirmed that the pair were spotted with friends where Amal was sporting a pretty nice rock on her left ring finger. Amal is 36 years old and George is 52 years old. Continue reading America’s Perpetual Bachelor-George Clooney is Engaged? Say What?
Last night was the two-hour season finale of “Being Mary Jane”. I have enjoyed the show immensely and have been eager each Tuesday to watch the upcoming episode. While, like many I do not view Mary Jane as a role model but as entertainment. However, I do think she highlights the vulnerabilities, insecurities and carelessness that many women experience when seeking love. Continue reading What If You Turned In Your “Ride or Die” Chick Title Too Soon? Can You Reclaim Your Title? Takeaways from Being Mary Jane
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On the heels of Gabrielle Union’s recent appearance on The Arsenio Hall’s Show I cannot help to address the sticky topic of “Prenup”. During the show Gabrielle Union mentioned the following regarding her much-anticipated marriage to Dwayne Wade:
“For this marriage, the biggest difference between this and the last marriage will be a prenup…at my insistence. When you have you own stuff, you don’t need to worry about anybody else’s stuff. So everyone should go into the relationship knowing I’m here for you and you’re here for me. And the reality is, I’ve never seen Dwyane balance a checkbook, so I gotta protect my stuff. It’s the wave of the future, protecting your stuff.”
My Insights!
Recently going through a divorce, while more seamless than my peers, I cannot help but to reluctantly agree with Gabby’s stance on prenuptial agreement prior to marriage. As a professional woman in my thirties, I have worked hard for my current lifestyle and assets. I also applaud and appreciate the man who I choose to share my life with on his accomplishments and assets attained prior to meeting me. I am also realistic that marriage does not always result in a happily ever after. I am comfortable with my lifestyle at present and God forbid if I do get re-married and it just happens not to work out. However, if that happens, I would like to return to my existing lifestyle and I would expect my mate would as well. Thus, I feel what I bring into the marriage and likewise for my mate, we will continue to keep those assets despite our marriage outcome. Now assets we acquired together, those can be up for debate and an agreement can be etched out in the prenuptial agreement as well. And of couse if there are children, it is a requirement that they would be taken care of. But I am a successful and independent woman who is capable of taking care of herself. Now if my man insists that he wants to continue to partially provide in the event our marriage does not work out, or if the outcome is due to his detriment the financial boundaries can be discussed and included in a prenuptial agreement. In a marriage union, all I ask and require is love, a best friend that provides spiritual, mental and physical support. I hope to build a more powerful empire together financially, but understand that the assets we worked hard attaining separately should not be at risk of losing in the event we cannot resolve our relationship issues between each other.
Now, that does not mean I want all the selfish and greedy men flocking to me. It is just that I respect your hustle before me and would not want to risk what you worked hard for prior to meeting me in a court battle. And likewise for me. Now my offsprings from my marriage, yes I expect my potential mate to make sure my children are well taken care of.
But yes, in this day and age women are likely to be just as successful as their mate, and we are also at risk of losing their assets. This is a new age from our parents generation. I reflect on a girlfriend’s recent situation who was the breadwinner in her household and was required to pay alimony, based on a calculation in the state of New Jersey that dictated whomever is the highest earner must pay a designated amount to the spouse. Through my divorce, we came to our own agreement and bypassed the legal system meddling in our affairs. Yes, I could have probably benefited from more but there was also a risk that I could be the subject of paying alimony too. While we did not have a prenuptial agreement, we both respected each other’s hustle to bow out and leave with what we walked into our marriage with. The most important decision was to come with a support agreement for our children’s best interest.
So I am pro a prenuptial agreement, marriage is about building a life together with the person you love, but in case the outcome is not a happily ever after, you should not have to re-build from scratch, especially if you were living comfortably prior to the union. Both parties should be able to return to their status quo pre-marriage.
What Are Your Thoughts? Would You Request A Pre-Nup Prior to Marriage?
Evan Ross, brother of Tracey Ellis Ross and son of Supreme’s singer Diana Ross just became engaged to his girlfriend, singer Ashlee Simpson. Ashlee Simpson, sister of singer, actress and fashion designer Jessica Simpson has been dating Evan Ross since the summer of 2013. A testament to a whirlwind romance. The engagement was announced to the public via Twitter from Ashlee Simpson and Tracey Ellis Ross. Tracey tweeted:
“I am so over the moon for my brother. He has found the LOVE of his life. And I get another sister. Nothing better. I love you “Shlee” Congrats @eross77 @Missbananahammock I’M SO EXCITED!!!!! #RossSimpson #love”
Ashlee also posted a picture of herself, Evan and her bling on Twitter. Announcing: “My baby love and I are ENGAGED!!! Hallelujah Hawaii !!!!!”
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The engagement follows a public divorce two years prior from ex-husband and Fall Out Boy frontman Pete Wentz. Congratulations to the couple.
My Insights!
I believe when the love for each other feels right, why wait a year or two to date to know what you already know about the person in the first few months? If the two of you both enjoy each other’s company, recognized each other’s positive and not-so-positive attributes, and still want to have your mate’s back, what else needs to be discussed. I have this debate with my girlfriends all the time. When the timing and maturity is in sync a man becomes ready to find his mate. When they do, provided they are not jaded, they do not waste time. I remember dating a guy from college, maybe a couple of years too long, my aunt approached me and asked what the heck I was doing. For my aunt, my uncle asked for her hand in marriage within six months of dating. She explained to me that it does not take that long for a man to figure out if he wants you in his life. If it does, he is dealing with his own personal issues or there is something about you that causes hesitation. However, more times than not, it is not about you. She told me to move on and let him deal with his issues, when he is ready he will come back. If he is lucky, you may still be there or someone else will acknowledge and appreciate your worth. And sure enough, I did find a man shortly after my break-up who was ready and wanted me to be a part of his life. He put a ring on it within nine months and discussions began with his family a couple of months prior. So I am a firm believer, if it feels right go with the momentum. Sometimes the hesitation brings a lot of unnecessary wounds. I wish much success to Evan and Ashlee’s engagement.
The cover of the February issue of Essence Magazine features comedian, author, relationship expert, and talk show host Steve Harvey and his wife Marjorie. Steve gets personal and discusses his Continue reading A Man Returns When He Is Ready- Steve Harvey Talks to Essence Magazine- My Insights!
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There has been much chatter over social media lately regarding personal opinions of recent decisions made by two women to stay with their uber-celebrity mates despite recent news of these men fathering love-children, referring to the Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade and Ludacris and girlfriend Eudoxie situations. Both women remain committed to their men despite their promiscuity missteps. There have been conflicting reports on whether there was an actual relationship hiatus when the offspring were conceived. These events bring to light the celebrity lifestyle of male rappers and professional basketball players. Is it possible for men who are pressured with such temptation from groupies to exhibit monogamy? The discussions and opinions on whether these two women (Gabby and Eudoxie) should stay or leave their mate are endless. It begs me to ask: To attain the “Wifey” role with someone should you have to put up with all of that? Would a Man “Put a Ring On It” if I also took a brief break and became impregnated by my “In Case of Emergency, Break Glass” Sidepiece? I think not. Continue reading Auditioning For The Wifey Role? What Would You Put Up With?
All right…now this is a bit trifling. Apparently according to Blacksportsonline, Dwayne Wade’s new baby mother Aja Metoyer apparently wrote a letter back in February addressing her affair with Dwayne Wade. Now I know my earlier post was defending relationship breaks….but only if it is a true break away from the relationship mutually agreed upon by both parties. Blacksportsonline shared an excerpt from part of the open letter addressed to Gabrielle Union:
So it’s only right I put Dwyane Wade on blast. First and foremost i’d like to thank ***** Wade, his cousin for booking my numerous of flights.
Ohh yea, hi Ms. Union. Good too see you stuck around and have a few more pieces of clothing inside of his house. The kitchen looks great by the way. I love the new counter tops. I would also like to thank Rich, the chef for his amazing breakfast. His cookies are the best.
And last but not least I’d like to thank Dwayne for always making me feel comfortable on your side of the bed. Hiding pictures in your drawer. You know the night stand next to your side of the bed, the one with the two drawers. Think the picture is the one with you and Sanaa Lathan in it.
Also Gabrielle you are a little to old to be making Valentines day Photo albums. Leave that to the young girls your man cheats on you with. Dont believe me, I took a picture of the picture.
FYI your man likes fat asses you might need to get you one. Last but not least. I will send you a picture of the bags your man left in the hotel room i f*cked him in. lol
MY INSIGHTS
The letter is classless and disrespectful. What man would take a woman seriously that is spiteful and would send such a letter to your woman or ex for that matter. Doesn’t she know that woman is going to confront her man or ex-man of this and the only one who is going to look immature is her.
Sounds like from the contents of the letter, that Dwayne Wade and Gabby Union were not having that long of a relationship break if Dwayne has pictures still up by his bedside. But that is not for me to judge.
The message is to all of the side chicks out there….if you do want a chance of being the number one chick….a letter to your dude’s ex is not going to help you up those ranks. That letter was probably the realization point that he needs to get rid of this trash and return to his treasure.
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First Dwayne Wade…Now Ludacris Fathering A Lovechild
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Okay there has been more than enough buzz since the media found out that basketball player Dwayne Wade fathered a child (now three-month old) with Aja Metoyer (alleged known Groupie- a woman who has persistent relationships with celebrities) during a break from his long-term intimate relationship with his new fiancee, actress Gabrielle Union. Now it turns out Ludacris also fathered a child while on a temporary hiatus from longtime girlfriend Eudoxie. Apparently, the child was born early December and is approximately one-month old.
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My Insights
When two people decide to take a break from a relationship whether temporary or permanent….they are entitled to live their lives as a single woman or man. Meaning, in my opinion entitled and free to do as they please. Two individuals wanting a break means they are not ready to pursue a relationship or move forward the already established relationship they have with each other. While on hiatus, the ex boyfriend or girlfriend may seek sexual and emotional satisfaction from someone else. This is not infidelity, vows have not been shared. A serious or not so serious connection can be established with another woman or man. While Dwayne Wade and Ludacris may need a lesson or two on safe sex practices, engaging in sexual intimacy while separated from their girlfriend/fiancée is not wrong. Sometimes engaged in other relationships while separate from your ex-boo allows you to appreciate the relationship and qualities you and your ex-boo shared and possesses.
In some cases two people drift back to each other rekindling their deep emotional bond as more mature adults. This could be after months of partying, focusing on career, or just getting all of the single’itis out of their system. Gabby and Dwayne…..discussed their break from each other and Dwayne’s mistake that led to a precious treasure. She has accepted her man despite his flaws and the new addition to their future family. She is all good…and content with her bling bling. The same can be said for Eudoxie. As the two were seen together happy as they shared in the New Year together.
Hey, not everyone can have the sequentially desired mating lifestyle. Boy meets girl, date, get engaged, married then have offspring. Love is blind. Sometimes, there are kids from other baby mommies and daddies….including while you are on relationship break from your mate.
What Are Your Thoughts? Would You Rekindle A Relationship With An Ex Despite Him Fathering A Child With Another Woman or Having A Child With Another Man?
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Okay there has been more than enough buzz since the media found out that basketball player Dwayne Wade fathered a child (now three-month old) with Aja Metoyer (alleged known Groupie- a woman who has persistent relationships with celebrities) during a break from his long-term intimate relationship with his new fiancee, actress Gabrielle Union. Now it turns out Ludacris also fathered a child while on a temporary hiatus from longtime girlfriend Eudoxie. Apparently, the child was born early December and is approximately one-month old.
My Insights
When two people decide to take a break from a relationship whether temporary or permanent….they are entitled to live their lives as a single woman or man. Meaning, in my opinion entitled and free to do as they please. Two individuals wanting a break means they are not ready to pursue a relationship or move forward the already established relationship they have with each other. While on hiatus, the ex boyfriend or girlfriend may seek sexual and emotional satisfaction from someone else. This is not infidelity, vows have not been shared. A serious or not so serious connection can be established with another woman or man. While Dwayne Wade and Ludacris may need a lesson or two on safe sex practices, engaging in sexual intimacy while separated from their girlfriend/fiancée is not wrong. Sometimes engaged in other relationships while separate from your ex-boo allows you to appreciate the relationship and qualities you and your ex-boo shared and possesses.
In some cases two people drift back to each other rekindling their deep emotional bond as more mature adults. This could be after months of partying, focusing on career, or just getting all of the single’itis out of their system. Gabby and Dwayne…..discussed their break from each other and Dwayne’s mistake that led to a precious treasure. She has accepted her man despite his flaws and the new addition to their future family. She is all good…and content with her bling bling. The same can be said for Eudoxie. As the two were seen together happy as they shared in the New Year together.
Hey, not everyone can have the sequentially desired mating lifestyle. Boy meets girl, date, get engaged, married then have offspring. Love is blind. Sometimes, there are kids from other baby mommies and daddies….including while you are on relationship break from your mate.
What Are Your Thoughts? Would You Rekindle A Relationship With An Ex Despite Him Fathering A Child With Another Woman or Having A Child With Another Man?
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Congratulations and Kudo’s to Kelly Rowland on her engagement to her manager and partner Tim Witherspoon. Kelly Rowland confirms her engagement and will announce on the Queen Latifah show. Best wishes to the happy couple. Her fiancée proposed to her via Skype. Despite my failed marriage, I am a true romantic at heart. I am still a huge advocate of marriage. Love is grand when two people willing to put in the work come together to form that union. I wish them both much success and happiness!
Happily Divorced and After 