Mekhi Phifer, the “Divergent” actor discusses his past marriage and current amicable co-parenting relationship with ex-wife Malinda Williams. During his recent interview with Power 105.1’s The Breakfast Club he discusses his rocky marriage:
“I was young, I was like 24 years old and that’s tough being that young in this business, where I was at in this business and being in a tumultuous relationship,”
“You try to do the right thing, me and her have a son together. Being in that kind of relationship and that jump in my career at that age, it was tough. I can’t front arguing at home and going through all of that because we were both young and with both our A-type personalities—but we’re really good peoples now. We’re better off, like we’re happily divorced, we’re better off friends and we’re raising our son together.”
He also discusses some of the issues of his marriage, including infidelity.
“At the time it was crazy. For a lack of a better term, you’re traveling and girls are throwing it at you and sometimes your catching it. [I wasn’t cheating] the whole time but you know we were only married for less than a year.”
He also discusses how they resided in the same house but lived separately:
“There was a point where because I bought us a house and we were living on opposite sides of the house. We were technically married but you’re going two or three days living in the house and you aren’t even talking to, you talking about walking up and down the stairs past each other and you aren’t even talking. Then you got out in the world and you have your own group of friends and she has her peoples and you just become separate.”
Mekhi further discusses the sense of relief from ending his marriage with Malinda, how he felt the split was more difficult for Malinda who did an interview with Honey magazine which she accused him of being an adulterer and discussing the lack of proof:
“I was kind of relieved. I had developed this bald spot in the back of my hair because I was stressed and I didn’t even know it was stress. But once we got separated and I didn’t make it hard, I left her with the house and all of that and just left. I left with my clothes and my whip so then I was cool.”
“I guess she was still affected by it. She did this whole Honey article.”
“There was no proof of that,” he reasoned. “I said we were basically separated, we were only married a year and then we were technically married but we weren’t together. Yeah but there was no proof of that.”
Regarding their relationship: The key takeaway from this interview is despite a brief marriage plagued with cheating and disagreement, they are now “Happily Divorced”. They have a great co-parenting relationship where their child comes first. An amicable relationship with the other parent is paramount to your children. He has another son from another relationship and married his longtime girlfriend in 2013.
Regarding infidelity: I have never been the person fascinated with dating anyone in the entertainment industry. But temptation extends beyond that. There are always someone who thinks your mate is attractive. An after-work happy hour, working long hours with an attractive colleague, working as a civil worker such as a cop or fireman, there are sex symbols everywhere. There is always someone who wants your mate for themself or have the satisfaction of having time with them temporarily. Admittedly these occurrences are more frequent in the sports and entertainment industry. An unsettling discussion with your mate and feeling under appreciated is welcomed by many suitors and women ready to appreciate and take care of you for the moment. However, that is where you turn to your own inner strength and realize the bond shared with your mate is worth more than temporary satisfaction. While many couples work through incidents of infidelity in their relationship, it is a hard pill to swallow. Forgiving is the toughest part.
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