Have you ever had that uneasy feeling, that your mate or love interest is not keeping it 100%? They are not totally upfront with you regarding their feelings and you have a hunch there are secrets? These secrets or distractions are restricting their affection which was once in abundance towards you?
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How do you approach your mate? There is no evidence and you don’t want to seem “insecure” or “deranged”? Is this just paranoia or is their substance to support your unease? Here are a few sure-telling signs that your paranoia is actually your intuition telling you to scope the territory a bit further.
1) Your mate’s attentiveness towards you has slacked!
Two weeks ago, your mate was always doting, showering you with compliments and checking up on you. Now, their efforts have waned, you have to make them aware of your activities in order to get a response.
2) The roles have switched or you are now always the person taking the initiative!
Before, both of you were eager to see each other and spend time together. Both had butterflies in your tummies in anticipation of being in each other’s presence. Now it seems one-sided…and has nothing to do with the ending of the honeymoon phase. You are doing all of the initiating and your mate’s efforts have slacked. Your Boo is now all of a sudden extra-busy but not too occupied to meet up with everyone else in his or her circle.
3) There are more distractions than usual during your “”Together” Time!
When together, it seems the attention is diverted to their phone or other electronic device more than usual. Texts and phone calls that were once ignored while the both of you were together, are now urgent and must be addressed. This is beyond the normal work-related emergency correspondences that requires real-time response.
4) There are gap holes in your mate’s whereabouts when away!
Discussions of out-of-town business trips and getaways, now become vague. Your mate who used to share all of the snapshots, souvenirs and postcards of their trips now doesn’t volunteer too much information of his or her escapades away. To get any detail on their excursions, you feel like your playing the game of 50 questions.
5) There are inconsistencies in what your mate is telling you!
Catch up conversations seem to be in genuine. You begin to notice that facts are not matching up over a series of conversations. Intentions and promises are not reaching fruition.
6) Pictures, Social Media paint a different story of your mate!
You don’t even know this person that you see on social media. They are a complete stranger from the person that you have grown to know. Their interests, friends and where they hang out which are shared with all of their followers is not shared with you…the person that is supposed to be special in their life.
Intuition or Paranoia?
All of these are red flags that your partner is not as vested in the relationship as you. Now you can attempt to have open communication to understand the root cause of the change in their behavior. However, if they are not willing to have open dialogue and give you the respect that you deserve….adjust and move forward. As a hopeless romantic, I am all about putting your all into a relationship. But there comes a point, when the efforts are not reciprocated that you just need to press forward.
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