The latest theory on why America’s divorce rate is so high, according to singer Tyrese Gibson, is because of the prevalence of reality television shows, blogs and magazines. In a personal released video he discusses the impact.
“Blogs and websites, press and media, they got a job to do. They do. But unfortunately, a lot of married couples don’t end up on the cover of some of our favorite magazines until they file for divorce, which makes getting a divorce way more popular than the marriages that are actually working, that are still functioning, that are happy and beautiful,”
The “Manology” co-author with Reverend Run from hip hop legend rap group RUN DMC, further explained that the media should do a better job in uplifting healthy and satisfied relationships as opposed to exploiting unstable and deteriorating relationships.
“There should be more magazines and more media and press attention around husbands and wives and marriages and families that are functioning and doing well. Happy, beautiful and amazing. We should highlight love and beauty and things that are working versus just being so focused on the things that aren’t working. That’s how I feel.”
He further argues that shows such as “Real Housewives of Atlanta” and other reality television series contribute to the break down of happy relationships.
“What ends up happening is you’re at home and you’re looking at shows like ‘The Housewives’ and all of these different reality TV shows and in your mind, this reality becomes reality. You find yourself arguing and having issues at your house and in your marriage and in your family that are directly influenced from the sh*t that you’re seeing on TV. You don’t even know it.”
“You, as a woman, you’re sitting there watching TV and you’re witnessing in which women complain and have issues and conflicts in their marriages that are filmed on a reality show. And they’re directly influencing issues and conflicts that are being created in your house.”
According to formerly divorced Tyrese, he views the impact that these shows have on marriages and families is nothing but “the devil’s work.”
“That is not your f**ing marriage. Those are not your issues. That is not your situation. You have what you have with your husband. That is your family. Those are your kids. That is your situation that you created. So, the fact that you’re allowing these outside images and reality TV shows and blogs and websites and all of this negative stuff that is being constantly fed on all social media [and] all over television everywhere to influence how you feel about your husband, your own family, or your wife is wrong. I believe it is a direct orchestration of the devil’s work. That’s how I feel. That’s my opinion.”
“Think of how many arguments were sparked and created from some sh*t you seen on TV,” he continued.
I will agree to Tyrese to a certain point, yes the media does exploit negativity and it could contribute to the high divorce rate. But it is not in itself the sole reason.
From a divorcee that reads magazines, blogs and social media, less so much reality TV, I did look while married at couples that epitomize a strong family. I never really focused on the issues of deteriorating families but those that had the foundation that I aimed to have in my marriage and family. Through those lenses, there were certain attributes that were missing in my marriage. Not to say I expected my marriage to be perfect. Every marriage has problems and issues and what is shown through the dressing window is usually not how it rolls behind closed doors. But from personally knowing solid relationships within my family, friends and the few media celebrated couples, I knew there was some type of glue that kept them together which was missing in my relationship.
Additionally, media did play a factor in watching the women who did decide to leave their marriage, become even more empowering than before. The ability of these women to handle life as a single mother, career women and move forward and find the deserving true love and happiness that was missing in their first marriage, was encouraging to me.
However, my divorce was not a result of the media outlets. Instead, it was me wanting more from a relationship. The evolutionary mindset of independence, strength, perserverance and seeking out what you truly deserve was the motivation that made me seek a divorce.
So why I do agree with Tyrese, that media does always like to highlight the negativity and strife of relationships, they also highlight the women and men that ended a failed marriage and have found happiness again. The strife is matched with the fortitude and perserverance. The camera lenses are there to watch us fall down….but the fascination remains when you see these people pick themselves back up and become better than what they were.
What are your thoughts? Do You Think The Media Has Played A Significant Role In America’s Divorce Rate?
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