During a recent interview by Extra TV for her new show Gotham, Jada Pinkett-Smith actress, mother and wife to actor Will Smith was asked by the reporter what’s the key to keeping her marriage intact and she replied as follows:

“Your partner has to be your best, best friend. And he’s my best friend. You have to have kind of a warrior mentality. You have to be a solider for love. You have to be able to withstand tough times and just because the tough times come doesn’t mean it’s time to stop… it means it’s time to dig in.”

Jada also let Extra TV know that her 20th wedding anniversary is not too far away.

 “We’re going to be celebrating 20 years in two years, so we’re starting to plan now for a big 20th year.”

My Insights!

If you are not married or in a relationship with your best friend, you are in the wrong relationship. Your partner should be your best friend. Sure people grow apart at times, but if you and your partner are committed to your union, your relationship will rise above adversity. Each other’s efforts must be reciprocated. Refer to blog post “Reciprocity- That’s All It Takes”. You have to be a Warrior for your marriage a “Ride or Die” type of person. There are great moments, followed by tough times, then even tougher times, when perservered it is followed again with great moments. And often, the cycle repeats. The unions built on friendship and commitment are the ones that survive.