Your heart feels hollow! It was once filled with promise of reciprocity: love, friendship, trust and intimacy. You just vested your time, heart and everything you had in this person. Your hopes of possibly having a “happily ever after” did not manifest. Sadness runs through your body. Your emotions run wild. Was these feelings you had based on real happenings or was it all staged to captivate your heart and watch it shatter in a thousand pieces? Was it something you did wrong or quality that you lacked? Or was it just timing? Maybe your canvas of a relationship did not match your partner’s. Maybe he found it in another.
Despite the demise of a relationship, the outcome of how it ends is controlled by you. Hone in all of those emotions, be it hate, sorrow, or relief. If you felt that you were double-crossed by someone you trusted or angry that the outcome just did not go your way, do not seek revenge. Get your head out of the past. Good Riddance! There is no need to seek for your ex-partner to feel the type of hurt your feeling internally.
No need to defame your mate’s character via social media or any public setting, resort to physical or verbal abuse, or even cold silence if your ex- is reaching out. Aim to keep it a peaceful parting.
Many times break-ups are not always about “you” and can be beyond your control. So what if your “ex” didn’t appreciate how fabulous a “Catch” that you are. Or maybe that person could not handle all of the intricacies of “you”. There is someone out there that can. Or maybe that person saw that you were a great “Catch” but felt they were not in the same place as you in life or wanted the same things in life that you desire. This is about timing and future desires…not about you. Your ex may have meshed better with someone else. Which means there is someone out there that is likely to mesh more with you.
And if you felt that the demise of the relationship was attributed to something you did and sought for forgiveness….well we all have to learn life lessons which sometimes results from loss of a partner. Luckily for you there is billions and billions of others from the opposite sex where you can start afresh on a new page. Take some time for yourself and seek the rehabilitation that you need. Your Fault, Not Your Fault, or Neutral On Both Sides: Don’t stalk! If they do not want to engage in communication with you….. Just Let It Go! Now if you have hopes that the relationship can be salvage, effort can be made to regain your mate’s heart. However, if it is clear that your efforts are falling on deaf ears…. Move On!
All of your friends and family members do not need to know all of the particulars either. While it is your prerogative to share, just be cognizant that you could be putting your ex in bad lighting. Is it fair just because you two didn’t work out that you have to defame your ex to people he may have established friendships with too? Let your ex choose to cut ties or continue to maintain correspondence.
If your ex is a great person and the two of you were just not a match, why discontinue maintaining a platonic friendship. Put your bitterness aside.
Don’t show your “Crazy”. Keep Your Spitefulness to yourself… Release your frustration through positive means- via exercise, take a kickboxing class and beat the crap out the punching bag. Yes, breakups are heart-wrenching.