“Sometimes, people haven’t apologized because they’re ashamed. Forgive them anyway! Sometimes you have to be okay with a sorry you never got. Forgiveness unblocks your blessing”
I love this quote….I thought I share this Monday morning. There are people that come into your life that bestow hurt and frustration….yet Continue reading Forgive Anyway…Even When There Is No Apology!
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control, that you have to transform your life…”
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All I seek in a mate is someone that brings out my best, shows me my wrongs and builds me into being a better me. This quote sums it all. No addendum needed.
Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.
Letting go of people in your life that do not uplift or benefit you but deflate your spirit despite shared history is a sign of strength. You may feel at times you may owe it to the person or the connection each of you share with each other to hold on, ride the rough patch out. But sometimes that rough patch is too rugged that it stifles your own personal growth. It is not worth mending, or you are the only one trying to smooth and buffer the situation and/or relationship. Let it go! How can you move forward into the new and discover the greatness you deserve if you have not let go of the damaged goods.
Sometimes letting go, also showcases if something was really there in the first place. The other person taking the other one for granted may recognize this and decides to put forth the effort in mending, smoothing and buffering. Unfortunately, though at times it maybe too late. The other person may have moved forward and is living a fulfilling life with no need for interruption.
Embrace your inner strength, move forward and let go! Let Life Flow! YOLO!
Divorce isn’t the child’s fault. Don’t say anything unkind about your ex to the child, because you’re really just hurting the child.
– Valerie Bertinelli
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“You May Not Control All The Events That Happen To You, But You Can Decide Not To Be Reduced By Them”
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“Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down.” If anything your correcting a mistake that was hurting four people, you and the person your with, not to mention the two people who you were destined to meet.”
― D. Ivan Young, Break Up, Don’t Break Down
I truly believe, my breaking up with my husband, provides us both with a path to fulfill the gaps in our lives that was inhibiting us from living our own destined satisfying and blissful life. I believed we were both constricted in a life with each other where compromises were made. These adjustments we made on behalf of each other, were contradictory to the core of who we each are. For what the sake of marriage? Yes, concessions should be made in marriage, between two people who love each other enough to build a future. But, if it is contradictory and constraining who you are, the other person has to either adjust due to his or her love for the other person or release them and let them soar to reach everything they desire. On that note! Fly, Fly Away! Salute to new beginnings, new encounters and new experiences…and hope they provide a joyous ever after!
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Here is a quotation about divorce from Grammy winner Shania Twain,upon her divorce from husband for 15 years, Robert ‘Mutt’ Lange :
“My divorce was like a death – a genuine death of commitment and love. After I got over the shock, I was like, tell me there’s some way we can save this. We can save this, right?“
The day after Shania’s husband announced that he wanted a divorce, she found out about his long-time affair with her best friend.
“I wanted to die. I had a panic attack.”
“I had been very angry, angry enough to lose control; none of us are above it.“
We all have our moments where we reach the optimal point of anger and hurt, where the “inner crazy chick” wants to takeover your sanity. Because that “inner crazy chick” is not having it at all! She will not be played and is ready to express her anger and hurt to the loved one that hurt her. Just remember this too shall pass. And at the end we all want to move forward without any regrets of past actions that could affect our future deserving joys in life. We all get to that point where we want to lose control. While we may want that “inner crazy chick” to break-out at that moment. Whatever satisfaction of throwing your cell phone or high heel shoe at his face…or if your thoughts go much farther to busting windows and slashing tires on his car or well just doing any violent act that resembles the hurt you are feeling …..it will not heal your broken heart. Just give you a moment of satisfaction…just think of your future beyond him. Burry your face in a pillow, get a few good cries out and move on!
Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.