Category Archives: Parenthood As a Divorcee

10 things I wish I’d known before getting divorced

This morning I read this forthright article posted on NBC Today in the Health section which I found from HuffPostDivorce. A divorce mediator tells of her 10 things she was not prepared for in her own divorce which resonates not only with me but other divorcees. Continue reading 10 things I wish I’d known before getting divorced

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Can’t Waste My Breath!

I can’t waste my breath on recurring themes in my life hoping for a different outcome.

My words fall on death ears…..first it is polite favors, turns to negotiations, then a debate to a full blown disagreement…. Anger and frustration rises.

Certain ways of people will never change. I can scream through the roof….but it is transparent.

That favor of being more accommodating, taking initiative, understanding my needs, my children…… you will never fully comprehend.

The transparency is apparent from the last time my request ended with the same outcome.

Yet you wonder why I was in search for a way out. Why I could not deal with your lack of regard of “ME” or “US” or “THEM”.

Vain, selfish ways do not deserve unconditional love. And as you see it dissipated….you stand alone.

I stand alone, with a weight off my shoulder. There are challenges and unknowns….but a gain of a full appreciation of ME!

I can’t waste my breath any longer!

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Just The Little Things That Matter!

Today my daughter started PreK-3 and my son’s first day for 3rd Grade was yesterday. The eyes of excitement when going back to school shopping and anxiety approaching their first days of school. Beginning of new school-year extra-curriculars and all other sorts. These are the moments I cherish. These are the moments when I feel truly blessed. My sprouts are my everything. They keep me wanting to be a better “Me”. Continue reading Just The Little Things That Matter!

Kids Post-Divorce- Routine and Communication Is Imperative!

I will not say that my divorce did not have any impact on my sprouts lives. I notice my son is at times more quiet than usual.  He has had to step up and be the man around the house in his father’s absence. My daughter well she is just too young to notice any difference, except that mommy and daddy have two different places to live, and wonders if she is going to daddy’s house or mommy’s house this weekend. I will say that she is quick to call out for daddy when she does not get her way. But I think being Daddy’s Little Girl and spoiled, her behavior would still be the same despite her parent’s status. Continue reading Kids Post-Divorce- Routine and Communication Is Imperative!

First Child vs. Second Child!

Now that I have removed my “Drama-Filled Emotional Divorce” Hat I am fully embraced back in my “Momma” Hat. So saw this article on Yahoo Shine! written by Jenny From The Blog that has her own blog site: TheSuburbanJungle.com, and had to share. As this was and is SOOOOO ME! Enjoy!

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When I had my first child, I wanted to do everything by the book. I was so nervous that the tiniest misstep would somehow break the baby. In fact, one of my first pieces was about how shocked I was that they just let me leave the hospital with this infant. Continue reading First Child vs. Second Child!

Sitting At A Bar Alone- The Ritual Of A Divorcee

Weekday evenings are typical of me dropping at a local hot spot alone. The babysitter is with the kids. When unable to fill time with friends or a possible date and my workload is light. This is my ritual. I don’t relieve the sitter until at least 8 pm. I completed my workout during lunch break so what do I do to fill that gap time? Why it may Continue reading Sitting At A Bar Alone- The Ritual Of A Divorcee

I Am A Product Of “The Divorce Generation”!

The “Divorce Generation” is referencing Generation X born between 1965 and 1980. A 2011 article in the Wall Street Journal: “The Divorce Generation” discusses the impacts of being raised in a time where if you were not a product from a divorced family, you had a very dear friend that was. The question asked to our generation, as opposed to my parents are “When Did Your Parents Get Divorced?”as opposed to “Where Were You During D-Day?” or “When Kennedy Was Shot or Nixon Resigned?”. Continue reading I Am A Product Of “The Divorce Generation”!

Happy Father’s Day To My Babies Daddy!

Now yes, I chose the controversial word “Baby Daddy”, that has become popular through urban culture over the past couple of decades. While people may prefer me to say the “Father of My Children”, I will admit “Baby Daddy” is catchy and easier to roll off Continue reading Happy Father’s Day To My Babies Daddy!

Family is Family!

“There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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