Category Archives: Relationship Issues Despite Status

13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A Grown-Ass Man

I thought this was a great quick read. It is accurate and to the point.

1. You know where you stand. You are his girlfriend or you are a girl he’s dating but either way he’s not scared to define it. He’s not afraid that a girl will cry and run away if she doesn’t hear what she wants to, he wants a mature woman because he is a mature man.

2. You don’t have to prod him to become a real adult. He’s self motivated to improve on his own. If there’s an area of his life that needs improvement, he’s working on it long before you notice it.

3. Texting with him is peaceful. Sometimes you have conversations. Sometimes you make plans. But it’s never a power struggle of who initiates and who texts lasts. It’s not fishing for compliments or security. It’s simply a short form of communication.

4. He calls his mom. You don’t need to tell him to do this and he does it to keep in touch, not because he needs her stamp of approval on all his choices.

5. He has interests. Like actual interests. Not beer darts or meeting women. He reads the newspaper or books, and when you ask him his opinion on something, he has an answer.

6. When you spend the night at his place, it doesn’t feel like camping. His sheets are (reasonably) clean, there’s (gasp) toilet paper and (double gasp) fresh towels in the bathroom, and there’s something in the fridge other than beer.

7. He doesn’t disappear for days or a week at a time. He knows that if he needs space or some time to clear his head when he’s stressed out all he needs to do is say that. He’s strong enough to be upfront rather than running away.

8. He never says “just trust me” as an attempt to end a disagreement. He knows that if you’re expressing a concern, the solution isn’t to just tell you not to have it. He isn’t manipulative.

9. He doesn’t get jealous. Sure, it doesn’t make him happy when another guy hits on you while he’s checking your coats, but he doesn’t blow up about it. He’s secure in your admiration.

10. He doesn’t treat you like a child. If he disagrees with you he can tell you that. He assumes you want to engage with him rather than assuming you are a piece of glass that will shatter at the slightest disturbance.

11. He encourages you to grow and try new activities. He isn’t afraid he will be left in the dust and he genuinely wants the best for you.

12. You never have this conversation: “Where do you want to go?” “Uh, I don’t know, where do you want to go?”

13. You don’t have to play a guessing game when he’s upset about something. He tells you. Directly. With words. And you have a conversation and figure out a solution. TC mark

Is Social Media Ruining Your Marriage/Relationship and Can It Be Held Against You In Divorce Court?

Social media, while innocent it may be sharing your life experiences and viewpoints to the world, is never private. This is despite measures you take in enabling privacy settings against outside public Continue reading Is Social Media Ruining Your Marriage/Relationship and Can It Be Held Against You In Divorce Court?

The Dating Funnel: Mingle, Mingle Equals Dates, and More Dates Then Exclusivity!

I have entered the world of online dating and amped up my social gathering appointments recently, following a brief winter break. I will say it is true getting out there in the New York metropolitan social scene results in a higher return of meeting new prospects. Not just Continue reading The Dating Funnel: Mingle, Mingle Equals Dates, and More Dates Then Exclusivity!

Do You Just Mirror A Prospect’s Actions Or Also Initiate?

We as women are told, not to put forth any efforts beyond what our male prospects extend.  Let the man lead and initiate. There is an article by Evan Marc Katz that informs women to just “Mirror” the guy’s actions. This results in women avoiding dealing with a guy that has commitment phobia or just doesn’t want to commit with you. Continue reading Do You Just Mirror A Prospect’s Actions Or Also Initiate?

What If You Turned In Your “Ride or Die” Chick Title Too Soon? Can You Reclaim Your Title? Takeaways from Being Mary Jane

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Last night was the two-hour season finale of “Being Mary Jane”.  I have enjoyed the show immensely and have been eager each Tuesday to watch the upcoming episode. While, like many I do not view Mary Jane as a role model but as entertainment. However, I do think she highlights the vulnerabilities, insecurities and carelessness that many women experience when seeking love. Continue reading What If You Turned In Your “Ride or Die” Chick Title Too Soon? Can You Reclaim Your Title? Takeaways from Being Mary Jane

How Is Your Dating Text Game?

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The dating scene has revolutionized since my pre-married days. Texting was in the primary stage in the mid -2000s. It had not yet replaced the traditional phone conversation. Nowadays re-entering the dating scene now divorced, texting is the fore-front of all dating connection.Text-messaging is the main form of communication with family, friends, flirting with the opposite sex and courting a prospective lifelong partner. Continue reading How Is Your Dating Text Game?

The “Adjuster”

Do You Feel That You Are Always Compromising? Are you the “Adjuster”?

Happily Divorced and After

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Call me the “Adjuster”. My middle name should be “accomodate”. Heck, many of my girlfriends should change their middle name too. Us as women, that is what we do….”adjust”….when we are in a relationship or marriage. We adjust our lives, interests, schedules to accomodate that gent who is important to us.

I have considered myself one of the coolest girlfriends and wives out there. I will rock out to Dave Matthews, Jimmy Buffett and any garage band, groove with Prince and get my gangsta lean on with Snoop Dog. I love sporting events and can hold my own when the topic of discussion turns to Fantasy Football while sipping a nice cold one.  I can put bait on my fishing rod. I chuckle at my colleagues male watercooler jokes….I get the alpha male humor. Not afraid to mess up my hair because of my motorcycle helmet, a swim in the…

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Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others by John T. Molloy

For all my single ladies and knowledge for the men who like to know thy self: This is a reblog! I thought this thought-piece based on empirical study was insightful and truthful. It commensurates with my relationship experiences including meeting, dating, and marriage. The age demographic is accurate, woman speaking up about what makes them happy is also true and the qualities men seek out in a women is a clear depiction from my own experiences. Enjoy!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?

Are You Dealing with Damaged Goods? Time to Clean Out and Dispose! Let them fix themselves on their own. Until then Let Life Flow! Enjoy new beginnings and know your worth!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?.