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V-Day Bliss for the Attached, Not-Yet-Defined and Single- As Published on Joint Interest

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Valentine’s Day is either the much-anticipated hot date of the year for the coupled-up or the much loathed and dreaded day by the single-dom. Valentine’s Day is a signal and reminder to the unattached that they are alone and not loved by a special someone. The men who are attached feel the pressure to step up their romance game or expect to hear about their lack of efforts for months on end, so to many it because a requirement rather than a genuine effort. Those that are entrapped in the non-exclusive relationships are filled with anxiety wondering if that new guy or gal or the one who has been around for a while will want to spend the designated day for lovers with them. Not to fret, despite your status there are plenty of ways to make your Valentine’s Day blissful.

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The Happily or Not-So-Happily Singles:

Don’t sit at home watching re-runs of romantic comedies with a tissue box pondering on why you are alone on this date. Get out of the house. Arrange a date with your girlfriends- go out for cocktails and check out that new anticipated movie “About Last Night”  starring scrumptuous Michael Ealy. For the gents and ladies attend a Valentine’s Day Party for singles or a concert. There are an abundance of them. Getting out on the scene ramps up the possibility of meeting a potential that you can spend V-Day with next year. It sure beats staying at home.

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The Not-Yet-Defined:

Keep it light. You do not have to reserve a four-course dinner reservation, send flowers and splurge on an expensive gift. If not quite sure your “not-yet-defined” lover or mate is exclusive to only you, then arrange a less formal evening the night before or after V-Day. Enjoy each other’s company over after-work cocktails, watch a movie or have a two to three star restaurant meal. This lets the person know that they are cared for and you are accepting of the no boundaries relationship that currently exists. Let your not-yet-exclusive mate keep their V-Day open. If you are lucky maybe the two of you will get to spend two evenings with each other. If the relationship is still new, how about arranging a group gathering. An eventful evening out dancing with other co-ed friends is sure to be a great time.

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The Attached:

Now fellas you have once a year to show your “A” game (okay maybe twice, there is anniversary too). If you are in love with your woman, why not make this day and/or night exceptional. Now I understand everyone has different budgets. But you can have a special evening without breaking your wallet. A home-cooked meal and a bottle of wine is always wonderful. Follow that with a gift-wrapped box of pleasures that are soothing to your eyes and soft on her skin is always a win-win for both parties. Woman love romantic comedies and really appreciate a man who is willing to accommodate and watch a movie with them. A night out dancing, his and her massages are also great idea, followed by a great meal.

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Don’t Forget The Men:

While Valentine’s Day is known to be geared to the ladies, men need to feel appreciated too. While I feel the guy should be making the dinner reservations, the woman needs to make her man feel special. Make sure you reciprocate the generosity.  Be prepared with a  small gift and card. A bottle of cologne is always great.

Depending on the tenure of your relationship, determines the type of gift. The staple is at least a card. Do not show up empty-handed. A Valentine’s Day card whether humorous, sappy, or in-between is an ultimate requirement. The flowers and gifts are optional, but the card is a must. Now if you have some relationship history, splurge on the roses. She deserves them.

Reflecting on my most memorable V-Day moments, they were always the simple and creative ones. A fancy dinner is wonderful, but a home-cooked dinner or a picnic at a park has always been my favorite.

V-Day Bliss for the Attached, Not-Yet-Defined and Single…Which Are You? How Will You Spend V-Day? 

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Is This You? 10 Personality Types Who Struggle To Find True Love

Interesting article on YourTango.com! I was able to identify with a few of these personality types. There are a few traits I will admit I aim to still  improve upon while other traits were  short-lived insecurities that followed a not-so-great break-up that I eventually overcame. Enjoy! 

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If Your Guy Does These 16 Things, Congrats! You Found a Real Man

This is a superb article on PopSugar.com. Great start to my morning! I agree 100% with this article. The author slayed it and is on point. Where is my Rhett Butler? These are the qualities you should definitely look for in a gent. Don’t sell yourself short!

How to know you’re dating a true gentleman and total, bonafide catch.

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I love Rhett Butler.

No, not Gerard. Rhett.

In fact, I feel that every man and woman on the planet should be made to watch “Gone With The Wind” at least twice, if only to teach men how to be men and women how to separate them from the boys. And if you are dating in the here and now, you know where the boys are: on Tinder, on Match, on the street, making vulgar statements about what they’d like to do with you and where. They’re in your phone texting sexual innuendos before they know your last name and asking to “hang out” because they’re terrified of committing to the idea of a proper date.

Rhett Butler would not do any of this.

Rhett was a man in control of himself. He dressed and spoke well, loved better, and had a great sense of humor, sometimes of questionable taste. He was unafraid to speak his mind, stand his ground, fall wildly in love, and show his love (and fight for it, too). Now, before you remind me that I’m speaking about a fictional character, I’ll let you in on a little secret: I was raised by a man who lived this way and know a few men who live this way now, and make no mistake: they do wonderfully with women.

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As a woman, there’s nothing better than being in the presence of a man who relishes in his masculinity in a way that doesn’t involve the obvious chest-pounding and cat-calling, but the confident reserve of a gentleman. Now, before you accuse me of hating men, let me be clear; I love more things about men than I can put into one article. This is not about finding female empowerment though man-bashing. Quite the opposite, actually.It’s a celebration of the grown up man’s man who knows how to treat a woman. What does this man look like, to me, at least? Well…

1. He is hygienic, but cleans his nails and trims his nose hairs outside of a nail salon. Think about it: Would Hemingway or Gladiator be getting his nails buffed? Methinks not.

2. He can balance both swag and sophistication and a career and a personal life without too many proverbial exclamation points (and certainly not multiple ones in a text message. No, no, no).

3. He reserves his “LOL” for actual laughter, which he exudes out loud and often.

4. He isn’t looking to play “pen pal” with you through your iPhone because he knows that all text and no play makes Johnny a very dull boy.

5. When he’s interested in a woman, he doesn’t wait three days to call her, but he does actually call her, and when he does, he asks her out for dinner, makes reservations, picks a great bottle of wine (because he knows how to) and then makes sure she gets home safely.

6. If he wants to see her again, he lets her know, and if he doesn’t, he politely lets her know that it was a pleasure to spend time with her, even if it wasn’t. He does, however, let her know gently and firmly enough that he’s not interested so that she doesn’t waste her time thinking it might become something it won’t.

7. He reads actual books and newspapers and holds opinions on everything from scotch pairings to world events all the while understanding that not all of his opinions are facts and that not everyone has to agree with him in order for him to maintain his relationships or his manhood. In fact, he enjoys it when you don’t agree with him because it means he gets to indulge you in a good debate or leave you thinking a little bit harder about things than when you sat down in front of him.

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8. He opens doors and takes coats, not because he feels a woman is weak, but because he is strong enough to show that he cares about the comfort of those around him.

9. Sure, he might want to get into a woman’s bed, but he’s also interested in getting into her head as experience has shown him that seduction is a delicate dance and the man who resides in her mind has conquered every other part of her.

10. He appreciates a woman who shows she cares for him, but he isn’t interested in being courted. He enjoys taking the lead in courting and doesn’t need to be “chased” because he’s in desperate need of an ego stroke. He also won’t play “puppy dog” to a woman who takes advantage of this.

11. He doesn’t look to be anyone’s father or savior, and he doesn’t pretend to be the leading man in any woman’s fairy tale. He’s just a man looking for a partner who can slay her own dragons, pay her own bills and explore the world alongside him.

12. He looks for a woman who doesn’t need him, but wants him, not for money or thehappiness or a baby or a safety net, but solely for who he is.

13. He has a career, a hobby, a family of close friends and a favorite way to have his steak prepared and he isn’t the least bit intimidated when the woman in front of him shares these qualities; quite the contrary, it makes him want her more.

14. He has taken the time to get to know himself and has a strong understanding of his own character and convictions, what he values and what he doesn’t. He is a man who is honest with himself about himself and therefore is OK being honest with those around him.

15. He takes as much pride in the way he treats women he’s with as he does his job and the way he looks.

16. He’s not the bad boy, a good boy, or a boy at all; he’s a man. A leading man, and he’s looking not for a good girl, but a great woman. One who shares all of the solid qualities that he brings to the table, and perhaps, can teach him something along the way. He’s willing to wait and work for this woman, to fight for her and will gladly hold out for her as long as he needs to. But when she comes along, he doesn’t sit on the fence; he’s smart enough to know when he’s gotten damned lucky. And when she finds him, she should be smart enough to know the same.

A Relationship Red Flag! How Long Should You Hold Back Concerns In A Sprouting Relationship Before It Backfires or Good Riddance?

You have met a wonderful gent, he is handsome, charismatic and shows genuine interest in you. The two of you hit it off and enjoy each other’s company.This guy has wonderful qualities and so far it seems your timing in life and priorities are in sync.

Now of course he is not perfect, there are certain nuances you pick up early on. But they are not considered deal breakers, but something that would need to be further dissected. You are still very much interested in getting to know this gent further as the positive qualities outweigh the negatives so far.

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Time goes on and you continue to admire the positives. He is for the most part consistent. The interest in each other is equally yoked. Continue reading A Relationship Red Flag! How Long Should You Hold Back Concerns In A Sprouting Relationship Before It Backfires or Good Riddance?

There’s One Thing That Causes All Breakups — And It’s SHOCKING!

Entertaining article on YourTango.com that I came across. Enjoy!

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It’s not that he’s selfish or she’s thoughtless. It’s about what’s (NOT) happening in bed.

What is the number one reason why couples decide to separate ways?

Well, if you believe the most common relationship advice out there, the cause of a breakup isn’t that obvious. There are thousands upon thousands of different opinions when it comes to finding an answer to why couples decide to end a relationship.

I am sorry to disappoint you, but you won’t hear the same nonsense from me that you heard over and over again. I won’t tell you that your girlfriend simply needed more time to “find herself,” whatever the heck that even means.

I won’t lie to you. Instead of feeding you all the fairytale beliefs about relationships and breakups that every couples therapist would tell you in order to get paid for another hour, I’m here to tell you the truth.

Unless there’s something serious going on like domestic violence, there is only ONE reason why couples break up, no matter what they think the true reason is.

Life Is Not A Hollywood Movie

We are trained by society and especially by the movie industry that breakups are always something dramatic. One person has to do something that hurts the other person or, even worse, we are made to believe that it is normal to break up because of every little trifle.

  • “You forgot my birthday! I’m done!”
  • “You never help in the household! I can’t take it anymore!”
  • “You just stabbed my mother! I’m going!”

All of these are just symptoms of a souring relationship, but they’re not the real reason you broke up — unless you really killed her mother.

Your girlfriend might tell you that she needs more space and that she wants to find herself, but in reality she is simply unsatisfied with the relationship. She might also tell you that you’ve changed and that you are not made for each other, but in reality she’s just unsatisfied with the relationship.

The True Reason For Breakups

What distinguishes a happy woman and, therefore, a happy relationship from an unhappy woman and, therefore, an unhappy relationship? How is it possible that some women are completely satisfied in a relationship while others are completely unsatisfied?

The only true reason for breakups is your penis!

OK, it’s not directly your penis but the fact that it’s is not inside her, at least not the time or the way that she wants it. Maybe you’re already at a place where she doesn’t even want you inside her anymore.

No matter what constellation you choose, the reason for breakups always goes back to sexual frustration.

You can call me crazy. You can convince yourself to not believe me, and you can even say that I am a stupid liar, but I honestly have NEVER seen an unhappy couple that had amazing sex.

I have never talked to a guy who said that he wants to break up with his girlfriend, even though he was still sexually attracted to her. I have also never talked to a girl who told me that she wants to break up with her boyfriend, despite the fact that she still enjoys him in bed.

No matter what the person who leaves says and no matter how your partner expresses her frustration, it always goes back on unfulfilled sexual desires: One of you is underappreciated in the bedroom and, therefore, frustrated.

Why It Is Inevitable

Do you want to hear another uncomfortable truth? You can take as many relationship therapy sessions as you want and you can buy as many sex toys as you can fit into your closet, but once the sexual attraction is gone, you can hardly get it back.

Unless the sexual attraction for each other is gone because you both gained 100 kilos and are fat as blue whales, it’s a natural process that two people lose interest in each other time, even though they didn’t change physically.

We human beings are not designed to live a monogamous life with just one partner for the rest of our life.

In case you decide to label me as a liar and decide to stay in your “happy” relationship even though your sex life is bad, you will rot in that miserable relationship for the rest of your life until your penis falls off, which is not really bad because you’re not using it anyway.

18 Qualities Every Alpha Woman Should Look For In A Boyfriend

Thought I would share this wonderful article with you all. Being an Alpha Woman….I definitely need someone that can handle all of my intricacies and not feel insecure or threatened by me voicing my feelings or opinion. Someone that will be a straight shooter and confront me when I am wrong but is not going to run at the first sign of adversity. I am not perfect but I have an incredible heart when given a true chance! As I am a Ride or Die just looking for my Ride or Die Match! Check the article on EliteDaily.com Continue reading 18 Qualities Every Alpha Woman Should Look For In A Boyfriend

16 Struggles Of Being Both An Independent Woman And A Hopeless Romantic

Thought this was fantastic! My Struggle Every Day or Every Other Day depending if I am focusing on the Independent Woman or the Hopeless Romantic side of me.

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1. A lot of people think the two things are mutually exclusive. You either have to be a doe-eyed romantic stumbling around desperately looking for love, or you have to be a strong, aggressive, ambitious career woman who doesn’t need a man. A lot of people try to tell you, through their actions or their words, that you’re not allowed to be both.

2. There aren’t a ton of women similar to you represented on the big screen. Sure, there are some. But not enough. Most of the women in the film are portrayed as one-dimensional love interests for men, or cold-hearted, career robots that learn to change and “soften up” when they fall in love. A lot of films make us feel like we can’t have both.

3. If you manage to have both a stable career and a healthy relationship, people often like to ask you how you…

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Your Too Controlling (And 2 Other Reasons Your Still Single)

This is a great article I found on “Your Tango”. This is insight to those that are single in search of being attached in the future. 
The signs you’re just not ready for true love … yet.

Everybody enjoys being loved, but many struggle to embrace it as they should. You may be one of those people, and up to this point, you may not have accepted that fact. You are certainly not alone in your struggle, and now it’s time to gain some clarity on this possible issue. So continue to read and be prepared to do some self reflection. Here are three signs you’re not ready for true love. Continue reading Your Too Controlling (And 2 Other Reasons Your Still Single)

15 Men On What They Wished Every Woman Knew About Relationships

I think this article from ThoughtCatalog sheds light on all the misconceptions women have on men. Sometimes we read too much in their inactions and draw to premature conclusions. I do this, especially #15 regarding e-communications. Enjoy!

1. Make both people happy.

Don’t make rules, make agreements.

2. It’s important to be affectionate.

Enjoy each other and express your joy. Couples that stay together have a much higher ratio of little happy moments in their day (saying hello, kisses, a touch on a shoulder, a smile, a compliment) vs unhappy moments compared to couples that don’t stay together. Plus it’s just nice.

3. Don’t go to bed angry.

Do not go to bed angry.

When I first wanted to get married, my relationship was not perfect and I set out to fix it the best that I could. The first thing that I learned is that is perfectly acceptable to go to bed angry.

Two people trying to resolve a disagreement when they are tired and irritable is more likely to make things worse. People think more clearly when they have had rest. In fact, sometimes going to sleep is just the thing you need to take care of an argument. The likelihood that you will still be upset when you wake up is very slim and you can talk with your partner more rationally when you need to instead of trying to force an ultimatum before bed time approaches.

4. Remember these four things.

1. If a guy hasn’t asked you out, it doesn’t mean he’s not interested. There are a ton of reasons a guy might be unable to ask you out; usually he simply doesn’t know if his interest is reciprocated. If you’re perfectly happy with the dating life and relationships you’re getting by sitting back and letting the guy make the moves then by all means keep doing what’s working, but if you’re not you should understand that asking out a guy is a valid option. Also, don’t get one or two rejections and decide asking guys out doesn’t work. A guy can’t do the same and then decide asking girls out doesn’t work.

2. Don’t ever think that most guys are just interested in casual sex and there’s a shortage of guys interested in relationships. Many women get this misconception because they only consider the guys who can effortlessly approach and seduce them at bars, when it’s more likely to be your shy friend who’s afraid to ask you out who’s interested in a relationship. It’s fine if you don’t find them attractive, but don’t think guys interested in a relationship are rare.

3. If you find yourself dating a lot of guys who turn out to be assholes, don’t ask yourself why assholes are attracted to you but instead ask yourself why you’re attracted to assholes.

4. It’s perfectly fine to have casual sex if you want, but you can never think that you can use sex to get a guy to want a relationship if he doesn’t want one. If you’re going to get hurt if the casual sex doesn’t turn into something more, you probably shouldn’t be having it.

5. Men are humans too.

Men are people who have the same feelings and emotions as you do. We’re just less likely to show our emotions. A lot of women are baffled by this, thinking “just open up! I like it when guys open up with their emotions!”, but it can be tricky to do as a man. Tons of guys have experiences doing so and finding that the woman’s lost her interest, because when a large part of your sexual attractiveness comes from your strength and confidence, exposing the fact that you’re not as strong and confident as she thought can certainly have a bad effect if done improperly.

6. How unhappy hook ups begin.

If a man says he doesn’t want a relationship, having sex with him will not change his mind.

7. If you have to settle…

A great piece of advice is that if you have to settle, settle on someone who’s less attractive than you’d prefer. Never settle on someone who treats you as someone below them, and this applies to both men and women.

8. Talk is cheap.

His actions speak louder than his words. If he treats you badly, no amount of “I love you”s should make a difference.

9. Men aren’t gifted with ESP.

You have to make your expectations clear. Few things are more frustrating than a partner who is feeling angry or unfulfilled because their SO didn’t do something that was only hinted at in a roundabout manner.

10. Learn how to be emotionally intelligent.

Tell me what you want, not what’s wrong.

In other words, develop what could be termed emotional intelligence: that ability to identify, assess, and be the commander of ones emotions. In my experience, it is 10 times more important than IQ and looks.

I don’t mind strong emotion. I just have no patience any more for blame, accusations, or “stacking” (bringing up the past), or being expected to be a mind reader.

Tell me what you want, not what’s wrong. You’ll be amazed at how responsive I’ll be and get you want you want.

Just. Stop. Complaining.

11. Don’t let anger make you treat him badly.

The best relationship advice I ever got was: Never treat your s/o worse than you would a complete stranger. If you care enough about how a stranger perceives you to alter your words or actions, then you should care much more about your s/o’s opinion and adjust accordingly.

12. Communicate.

Talk. Talk about how you feel. Talk about what you want. Talk about what he wants. Talk about everything.

If you keep the lines of discussion open and honest, then there will never be nasty surprises.

13. Don’t have a big ego.

You are not a precious flower that a man is tasked with fostering. Be accountable for continually growing and try to be the best version of you that you can be. Alternately, it is not your job to take care of a man. You are both adults who choose to be together. This should mean that you each bring something valuable to the table (many things really). Your relationship should beneficial to both parties.

Be friends. If you can’t talk about everything and work through difficulties as friends, you stand no chance of making it as a couple.

14. Don’t expect a man to be your everything.

dont treat your boyfriend like he is God. Meaning, dont act like he has all the answers to your life and then get mad when he doesnt.

15. Don’t read too much into e-communications.

Lastly, our texts or internet IM’s are terrible indicators of expression. A lot of people resort to “lol” and emoticons as a way to lesson the tension of our words because they can come off as being insensitive or mean. Please don’t assume we are angry through are words.

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Compiled from this AskReddit thread.

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1. Make both people happy.

Don’t make rules, make agreements.

2. It’s important to be affectionate.

Enjoy each other and express your joy. Couples that stay together have a much higher ratio of little happy moments in their day (saying hello, kisses, a touch on a shoulder, a smile, a compliment) vs unhappy moments compared to couples that don’t stay together. Plus it’s just nice.

3. Don’t go to bed angry.

Do not go to bed angry.

When I first wanted to get married, my relationship was not perfect and I set out to fix it the best that I could. The first thing that I learned is that is perfectly acceptable to go to bed angry.

Two people trying to resolve a disagreement when they are tired and irritable is more likely to make things worse. People think more clearly when they…

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21 Men Identify The Red Flags They Use To Determine If A Woman Is A “Loser”

Women what do you think? Thoughts Please! I agree with most and will admit there were a couple of characteristics I have been guilty of in the past. Article from ThoughtCatalog.

1. A REAL man? Aren’t all men real?

A woman who begins a sentence with “A real man would….”

2. This is super annoying

“If you loved me you’d…”

This isn’t a damn test.

3. Keyword: Girls

  • Girls that verbally abuse their SO in public
  • Girls that try to embarrass guys that hit on them
  • Girls that use sex to make people like them
  • Girls that need to snoop
  • Girls with multiple baby daddies
  • Girls that need the group to make decisions for them

4. Gold diggers

Girls in their upper-20s and 30s that still only ever apply to part time jobs and spend the rest of the time partying despite being completely qualified and capable of landing a proper 9-5 with good pay and benefits while still complaining how they never have money for stuff. And in almost every case they are looking for a guy with solid career and good income (who they will complain can’t come out partying all the time) to sweep them up.

5. Constant hate

I’d even throw in girls that use the word, “haters” in a, “serious” tone. Using it in a joke is fine though.

6. This is not good

I know a girl that can only go 1-3 months between boyfriends. She doesn’t know how to be independent and self-sustaining, both mentally and physically.

7. That’s not going to fly

Obese and tries shaming me into finding her attractive.

8. Bad attitude

  • A “what can you do for me?” attitude.
  • Not being able to hold up their end of the conversation, or basically sitting there and expecting to be entertained.
  • Their living space looks like complete shit. I’m not a neat-freak by any stretch of the imagination, but if your room still looks like it does when you were 15 you need to reevaluate your life.
  • A general lack of self-awareness, or just an inability to recognize that their actions have consequences.
  • Being comfortable and casual is one thing, but showing up to a date in pajama bottoms is weapons-grade loser.
  • Using the pussy pass.
  • Proclaiming how much she gets along with her “friends” while tearing them down behind their backs.
  • Using sex as means to get attention.
  • Placing their sense of self-worth an getting attention from men.
  • Crying feminism when it benefits them, crying misogyny when it doesn’t.
  • Talking too much about their exes.
  • Perpetual victimhood.
  • Proclamations of “I don’t like drama.”
  • A general inability to take “no” for an answer.
  • Performing mental backflips in order to rationalize bad decision making in hindsight.
  • Being “proud” of their inability to handle basic food preparation or lack of domestic skills.
  • Wondering why they feel like shit all the time when their diet consists of mostly Cliff bars, flavored vodka, and Vitamin Water.
  • A lack of self discipline.
  • A preoccupation with what celebrities are doing with their lives.

9. Princess syndrome

  • Expects everyone else to carry her through life. Aka daddy’s little princess.
  • Complains about things and shows no interest in changing them.
  • Being 20+ and acting like 16.

10. Leeches

  • A random girl that approaches insisting that I should buy her and her friends drinks. Sorry, if that’s what you’re going to lead with, you’re probably not very interesting as a person and are a money pilfering leech. I don’t buy girls that aren’t my SO/friends drinks, anyways.
  • Women with awfully negative personalities and then blame all of the men around them for their single status. You want to know why you’re single? Because few men want someone who is a complete drag to be around 99.999% of the time.

11. It’s going to get ugly real fast

For me its a woman who’s only existence seems to be with you. She has no life outside you.

12. That’s not fair to guys

Women who, when a man finds them attractive but she doesn’t find him attractive, automatically labels him ‘creepy.’

13. A hollow shell

  • Women creating drama and whoring for attention when they’re older than 16
  • Women constantly complaining about how all the men they date are assholes
  • Women doing nothing with their lives, only existing through their trophy husband
  • Women who always present themselves as victims to justify their incapacity at being successful and interesting
  • Women having a huge amount of interest in reality TV and celebrities life
  • Women who only listen/watch the movies/music that the radio/TV feeds them. (Passive attitude with culture and information)

14. You’re their life support

If their parents pay all their bills and keep them up in a lavish lifestyle. I don’t want to become her next support.

15. Drama, drama, drama

Girls who say they don’t have many female friends because they cause drama. Almost invariably, it means they cause a shit load of drama but can’t take it when dished out to them.

16. No future

No job/career – my biggest red flag.

17. Awful, awful, awful

  • Women who are cowardly and overly dependent on others but think that acting like a bitch makes them “strong and independent”.
  • Women who treat every guy they don’t know like he must be some sort of creep even if he’s done nothing to justify it.

18. Making stupid-ass excuses

Women who use that obnoxious (and possibly misattributed) Marilyn Monroe quote about “handling them at their worst,” usually as a way to excuse their deplorable behavior and their unwillingness/inability to do something about it.

19. Super judgemental

  • Being super judgemental about people makes them a loser to me. Especially if it’s a snap judgement, or based of some preconceived notion.
  • If a girls on a high horse about everything and can do no wrong, she might as well have loser stamped on her forehead.

20. Not a good sign

A girl who has a new set of girlfriends about every six months to a year. You know that girl is going to end up being a big meanie with low self-esteem.

21. Major red flag here

“I have a long series of ex-boyfriends were assholes, abusive, alcoholics, etc…”

Only constant in your relationships is you.

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This is building off on this post: 25 Women Reveal The One Thing That Makes Some Men Losers. You can find the original Reddit thread here. Men and women, yall both need to chill the fuck out.

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1. A REAL man? Aren’t all men real?

A woman who begins a sentence with “A real man would….”

2. This is super annoying

“If you loved me you’d…”

This isn’t a damn test.

3. Keyword: Girls

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  • Girls that verbally abuse their SO in public
  • Girls that try to embarrass guys that hit on them
  • Girls that use sex to make people like them
  • Girls that need to snoop
  • Girls with multiple baby daddies
  • Girls that need the group to make decisions for them

4. Gold diggers

Girls in their upper-20s and 30s that still only ever apply to part time jobs and spend the rest…

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