Category Archives: The Date Life

All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes

Thought I share this article from elitedaily.com. Thought the article conveyed the current state of women’s frustration with dating and was uplifting as a reminder there are plenty of fish at sea. Enjoy!

This is for all the women who’ve ever been second to “GTA,” a pick-up game of basketball, and the strip club on 61st and 10th. It’s for every girl who has ever felt used, cheated or under-appreciated. It’s for every woman who has been put in a slot and taken out only when he was ready to play.

It’s for all the people who have ever felt like they were making a priority out of someone who only saw them as an option.

If he tells you upfront that he can’t commit to you, then it’s on you, right? You shouldn’t have asked for something he couldn’t give. You shouldn’t have assumed that he wanted to give you his full attention. You shouldn’t have been so goddamn needy. Continue reading All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes

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“Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

The other day I read this quick read book titled “Flag On The Play- A Woman’s Guide To Finding Mr. Right In A World Full Of Right Nows” written by Dena Reid Esq. with Mandee Burgess who is also one of the creators of the social website CodeRedFlag.com. I truly thought it was a great quick read, insightful and allowed me to reminiscence on certain signs I have encountered through my dating life that I fell for or my girlfriends  have in the past and present and caution me on certain actions from prospective gents. The book provides thorough analysis of several real-life scenarios where the author and reader point out signs from the gent’s actions that indicate he may not be “Keeper Material”

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The book breaks down 10 characters a woman should avoid:

1) Mr. Hudson River Valley: Separated Means Married– Whoa! I seem to run in these guys everywhere.  I remember meeting a guy who was going through a divorce in my mid-20’s..I didn’t know where Continue reading “Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!

So I have further ventured out in online dating. A few days ago I signed up for OKCupid! a free online dating site. Prior to that I was only using one source for the past couple months eHarmony- a paid online dating site.

A co-worker who was divorced recommended me to try online dating and thought eHarmony would be good. Her stance was that she met her second husband there, and thought the selection of mates were reputable. Basically, men willing to pay for an online service, weeds out the gents that are on there for just games. Continue reading OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!

Can You (and Should You) Maintain a Friendship With Your Ex? As Published on DigitalRomanceInc.

Here is my article published on Michael Fiore’s digitalromanceinc.com

You were in a lengthy relationship. You vested your time and effort, opened up about your deepest secrets and feelings, shared intimate memorable moments that have molded you into the person you are today and will cherish and remember a lifetime.

Continue reading Can You (and Should You) Maintain a Friendship With Your Ex? As Published on DigitalRomanceInc.

10 Little Firsts In Relationships That Let You Know You’re With The Right Person

This article is very telling. When you experience these signs, you
definitely know you are with the right person. Sometimes you may
not be together with the person at the moment. This could be an existing relationship, past relationship or a lover turned best friend. The relationship thing didn’t work out at the time. Now that person is your best male friend who you spill all of your relationship woes, insecurities and secrets to. Then you have an epiphany that through your prolong search for Mr. Right, he was right there all along being your most avid supporter. Great post!

The signs as posted in the article on Thought Catalog.

The first time you hang out together in silence and it’s super comfortable and they’re on their laptop next to you while you’re catching up on the latest episode of Parks & Rec and you’re just like, this is good, we’re good, and the fact that I don’t feel obligated to talk or entertain or come up with shit to talk about is my everything right now.

The first time you realize that, whoa, you like this person so much more than you ever liked anyone else before, even though they get on your nerves and make you absolutely insane and can get super moody — but you also realize that here in this moment, there’s no one else you’d rather fight with and that’s really cool.

The first time you are completely naked with each other and you don’t feel insecure even a little bit, you’re just like, well, here’s my body and there’s your body, let’s smush them together for a while in the middle of the day, not under the covers, just right in the sunlight, imperfections and whatever else and you’re all, wow, that’s freeing as fuck.

The first time you realize that you’re more yourself with this person than anyone else, even your best friend, which then sends you into an identity crisis, because this person has totally accepted you exactly as you are and you didn’t even realize it until you did that weird single person behavior in front of them and they shrugged it off and said, meh, wanna cook dinner?

The first time you tell them your biggest, darkest secret and they listen and kiss you on the cheek and say thank you for telling them and you’re all, wait, why was I so worried about telling them that? And you think, our relationship just got to a new level of deep because they know that part of me and still love me, maybe even they love me more after knowing and that’s pretty awesome.

The first time you spend a week apart and you are so happy that you miss them, but the very act of missing them isn’t ruining your life like it has with other people and you’re all, healthy relationship achievement unlocked! And then you see them after a week and you have the kind of sex you can only have after realizing you’re in a really healthy, loving relationship with someone you can’t wait to get home to ravage.

The first time you look at them and think, if I was going to promise something as crazy as forever, I’d promise it with you, and you’re like, wow, I get how people decide to get married, because this person actually makes me believe in that forever kind of love that people have been writing sappy poetry about for ages.

The first time you realize that you know this person so well it’s almost as if they are an extension of you, like you know exactly what they’ll order at any restaurant, how they’ll most likely respond to any of your questions, and what their daily routine is. It would be super fucking creepy if it wasn’t actually so adorable.

The first time you’re tempted by someone else, and they’re very good looking, but then you realize that what you have is once in a lifetime and you wouldn’t dare waste that and, while it takes some serious effort and self-control, you put all that energy into making your relationship better — and lo and behold, it does get better. Self win!

The first time you realize that you are with someone that loves you as much as you love them, and you’re all, holy shit, that’s never happened before and you point that out to your significant other and you both high-five and order a pizza. TC mark

 

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The first time you hang out together in silence and it’s super comfortable and they’re on their laptop next to you while you’re catching up on the latest episode of Parks & Rec and you’re just like, this is good, we’re good, and the fact that I don’t feel obligated to talk or entertain or come up with shit to talk about is my everything right now.

The first time you realize that, whoa, you like this person so much more than you ever liked anyone else before, even though they get on your nerves and make you absolutely insane and can get super moody — but you also realize that here in this moment, there’s no one else you’d rather fight with and that’s really cool.

The first time you are completely naked with each other and you don’t feel insecure even a little bit, you’re just like…

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10 Types of Women Men Should Never Date as posted on CrazyAfricanz.com- A Self Reflection Moment!

So I came across this post perusing blogs. I thought this post on CrazyAfricanz.com was interesting. As I am engrossed in the dating life….I wonder if I fall into anyone of these categories. I thought it was great and an eye-opening article that reminds me of what I do not Continue reading 10 Types of Women Men Should Never Date as posted on CrazyAfricanz.com- A Self Reflection Moment!

13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A High-Quality Woman

So I thought I would be fair and add the “Woman Assessment” that Guys should hold up in determining if they are dating a “High-Quality” woman. All points mentioned in this article get my stamp of approval. This is the bar I set for myself, my daughter, my girlfriends and for any potential woman that will eventually attempt to gain my son’s heart. Most important qualities in my opinion are #1 through #6. From a guy’s perspective, I think we should also add point #9. A must-have as well is point #10. And as far as point #8….if you need to think this through than you should take pause on your priorities in life. Enjoy!

1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn’t micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

2. She doesn’t try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn’t need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

3. She doesn’t have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn’t treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn’t be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is close to in life.

4. She has a part of her life that doesn’t involve you. Friends, hobbies, career — whatever. She’s confident and independent enough to not need your involvement in everything she does.

5. You wouldn’t think twice about inviting her into different parts of your life: a barbecue with your college friends, a dinner with your parents, a fancy work party — she knows how to handle herself in different settings. She’s mature enough to make a good impression with your colleagues and wise enough to know letting loose with your friends and having fun doesn’t mean she’s immature.

6. She takes care of herself. This doesn’t mean she is perfect, it means she is always improving. You don’t have to tell her she needs to solve a problem in her life. She’s self-aware and sees what issues she has and is self-motivated enough to constantly be working to improve them. She needs a partner, not a dad.

7. When she is in a situation where she doesn’t know people, she introduces herself confidently. She doesn’t cling meekly to your side waiting for you to facilitate every social interaction.

8. A reasonable, non-hyper-conservative employer could look at her social media presence and hire her.

9. She isn’t shy about sex. If she doesn’t want to do something, she can articulate why instead of just saying “ew”. Your sex life with her isn’t a shady secret she feels uncomfortable talking about, it’s adult and healthy and you both work to keep the flame alive.

10. She has opinions more than “idk” and she can talk calmly and non-hyperbolically about them. If she disagrees with you, you can have a conversation about it without anyone raising their voice.

11. She would never joke with her friends or family (or worse, your friends or family) about how men are “stupid” or childish, or whatever “happy wife happy life” mantra you’ve heard women use to put down the partners they love.

12. She knows what she wants in life. She doesn’t change her values or goals to tailor fit the guy she is with.

13. You feel lucky to be dating her because you know she would never date anyone just to date them. She isn’t afraid to be single and she is self-sufficient. You know she is dating you because she’s attracted to you and she thinks that you will help each other grow to be even higher quality, together. TC mark

 

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1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn’t micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

2. She doesn’t try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn’t need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

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3. She doesn’t have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn’t treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn’t be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is…

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