I saw this article on ThoughtCatalog and thought it was spot-on with today’s dating culture. I have been meaning to write an article on this very topic. But while lengthy, I thought it was accurate and well thought out. Enjoy everyone!
Thought I share this article from Huffington Post! Enjoy!
Knowing when to divorce can be difficult, and it’s a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. So how do you know if you should proceed? How can you be sure that this time is really it? That this time there’s no turning back? Continue reading 10 Signs It Might Be Time For Divorce!
Oxygen has a new hit reality TV show called “Player Gets Played”. The premise of the show focuses on a new tryst scenario where one guy is involved with at least three other girls in each episode. A girlfriend discovers that she is not the one and only to her love interest usually through clues with the aid of a Private Investigator Continue reading “Player Gets Played” Oxygen New Show! Loyalty to Women or Man!
I never really understood the significance of losing a best friend, or disappointment in yourself and your friend that you held in such high regard, until recently.
If someone question my loyalty to this friend, I always shut them down. This person is truer than the color blue. Continue reading Farewell Ole Friend!
I haven’t posted in awhile. I am about to fall upon my two year anniversary since I was officially divorced..and am at peace at the moment.
Why as you may ask haven’t I posted?
My mind has been spinning. I have been discovering myself. Finding my internal happy. Not supplemented by infatuation, masked by fake love by someone who is not really true. Continue reading Shenanigans
Entertaining article on YourTango.com that I came across. Enjoy!
What is the number one reason why couples decide to separate ways?
Well, if you believe the most common relationship advice out there, the cause of a breakup isn’t that obvious. There are thousands upon thousands of different opinions when it comes to finding an answer to why couples decide to end a relationship.
I am sorry to disappoint you, but you won’t hear the same nonsense from me that you heard over and over again. I won’t tell you that your girlfriend simply needed more time to “find herself,” whatever the heck that even means.
I won’t lie to you. Instead of feeding you all the fairytale beliefs about relationships and breakups that every couples therapist would tell you in order to get paid for another hour, I’m here to tell you the truth.
Unless there’s something serious going on like domestic violence, there is only ONE reason why couples break up, no matter what they think the true reason is.
Life Is Not A Hollywood Movie
We are trained by society and especially by the movie industry that breakups are always something dramatic. One person has to do something that hurts the other person or, even worse, we are made to believe that it is normal to break up because of every little trifle.
- “You forgot my birthday! I’m done!”
- “You never help in the household! I can’t take it anymore!”
- “You just stabbed my mother! I’m going!”
All of these are just symptoms of a souring relationship, but they’re not the real reason you broke up — unless you really killed her mother.
Your girlfriend might tell you that she needs more space and that she wants to find herself, but in reality she is simply unsatisfied with the relationship. She might also tell you that you’ve changed and that you are not made for each other, but in reality she’s just unsatisfied with the relationship.
The True Reason For Breakups
What distinguishes a happy woman and, therefore, a happy relationship from an unhappy woman and, therefore, an unhappy relationship? How is it possible that some women are completely satisfied in a relationship while others are completely unsatisfied?
The only true reason for breakups is your penis!
OK, it’s not directly your penis but the fact that it’s is not inside her, at least not the time or the way that she wants it. Maybe you’re already at a place where she doesn’t even want you inside her anymore.
No matter what constellation you choose, the reason for breakups always goes back to sexual frustration.
You can call me crazy. You can convince yourself to not believe me, and you can even say that I am a stupid liar, but I honestly have NEVER seen an unhappy couple that had amazing sex.
I have never talked to a guy who said that he wants to break up with his girlfriend, even though he was still sexually attracted to her. I have also never talked to a girl who told me that she wants to break up with her boyfriend, despite the fact that she still enjoys him in bed.
No matter what the person who leaves says and no matter how your partner expresses her frustration, it always goes back on unfulfilled sexual desires: One of you is underappreciated in the bedroom and, therefore, frustrated.
Why It Is Inevitable
Do you want to hear another uncomfortable truth? You can take as many relationship therapy sessions as you want and you can buy as many sex toys as you can fit into your closet, but once the sexual attraction is gone, you can hardly get it back.
Unless the sexual attraction for each other is gone because you both gained 100 kilos and are fat as blue whales, it’s a natural process that two people lose interest in each other time, even though they didn’t change physically.
We human beings are not designed to live a monogamous life with just one partner for the rest of our life.
In case you decide to label me as a liar and decide to stay in your “happy” relationship even though your sex life is bad, you will rot in that miserable relationship for the rest of your life until your penis falls off, which is not really bad because you’re not using it anyway.
I can’t waste my breath on recurring themes in my life hoping for a different outcome.
My words fall on death ears…..first it is polite favors, turns to negotiations, then a debate to a full blown disagreement…. Anger and frustration rises.
Certain ways of people will never change. I can scream through the roof….but it is transparent.
That favor of being more accommodating, taking initiative, understanding my needs, my children…… you will never fully comprehend.
The transparency is apparent from the last time my request ended with the same outcome.
Yet you wonder why I was in search for a way out. Why I could not deal with your lack of regard of “ME” or “US” or “THEM”.
Vain, selfish ways do not deserve unconditional love. And as you see it dissipated….you stand alone.
I stand alone, with a weight off my shoulder. There are challenges and unknowns….but a gain of a full appreciation of ME!
I can’t waste my breath any longer!
Is Happily Ever After Extinct?
The Generation X and Y’s admire our grandparents for having lasting marriages in excess of 50 plus years. But it is quite dense as we look at our peers for examples of strong marriages. Continue reading Is Happily Ever After Extinct? Trouble In Paradise With Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon!
On the July 13th episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, 30 year-old reality star Khloe Kardashian continues to deal with the demise of her marriage with estranged husband 34 year-old professional basketball player Lamar Odom. During the episode she reveals that she knew Lamar cheated on her while they were married.
“He’s now wearing his ring full time”
“F–k your ring. You were wearing it when you were f—ing someone, too.”
Later on in the episode she receives a text from one of Odom’s Continue reading Khloe Opens Up About Lamar Odom Cheating During A Melt Down on KUWTK- My Insights!
Thought I share this article from elitedaily.com. Thought the article conveyed the current state of women’s frustration with dating and was uplifting as a reminder there are plenty of fish at sea. Enjoy!
This is for all the women who’ve ever been second to “GTA,” a pick-up game of basketball, and the strip club on 61st and 10th. It’s for every girl who has ever felt used, cheated or under-appreciated. It’s for every woman who has been put in a slot and taken out only when he was ready to play.
It’s for all the people who have ever felt like they were making a priority out of someone who only saw them as an option.
If he tells you upfront that he can’t commit to you, then it’s on you, right? You shouldn’t have asked for something he couldn’t give. You shouldn’t have assumed that he wanted to give you his full attention. You shouldn’t have been so goddamn needy. Continue reading All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes