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Thin Line Between Flirting and Disrespect! Insights on Robin Thicke!

When in a relationship, at what point does flirting with someone else become blatant disrespect?

There has been much to say recently on Robin Thicke allegedly flirting with a beautiful woman in Paris after his performance at the popular spot Club 79. Various photos were taken of him dancing closely with another woman on the dance floor. This news follows a previous photo scandal that hit the media waves late summer, where pictures were taken of him close and personal with a pretty blonde woman. After photos were exposed to the media, the woman claimed that Robin Thicke squeezed her behind. See photos of Robin with woman in Paris below:

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See full coverage of Expose at the following link:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2542759/Flirty-Robin-Thicke-dirty-dancing-not-wife-Paula-Patton-tears-dancefloor-Paris-club-mystery-woman.html

An Honest Big Flirt!

First, I will play devil’s advocate. Some of us are just flirts at heart. Intentions are innocent. Our partners know who we are. We don’t just flirt behind their backs but also flirt while out with our spouses. There are times we enjoy festivities separate from our spouse. We take pictures and engage in dancing with platonic friends of the opposite sex while at work functions, birthday parties, receptions, and just hanging out with our ride or die crew. When spotted cutting a rug on the dance floor by an outsider, that hater runs to your mate sharing what he or she saw. Your spouse simply replies I know all about my Boo, acknowledges that his or her mate is an enormous flirt. They claim their personalities are just jovial in nature,  their good-spirited heart and ease of flickering compliments to everyone gravitates attention. The spouse is confident in their union and news from outsiders does not sway their mood one bit. No insecurities exist, they are the one and only who captivates their partner’s heart. The spouse acknowledged, accepted and loved this aspect of their mates personality prior to marriage and is aware that it is part of their DNA makeup that molds him into the person he is today.

Where The Line Crosses Into Disrespect:

When the harmless compliments, gregarious engagements with the opposite sex becomes disrespectful is when more than one onlooker and/or the subject of your teasing complains that your actions are offensive. If you flirtatious acts  are perceived by others as classless, rude and vulgar it is now discourteous to your partner. Your philandering needs to be toned downed or come to a halt.

Being a public figure, unfortunately the bar is raised. All of your actions are more scrutinized and controversy is deemed newsworthy. While there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting, you have to be aware that everyone is watching. Grinding on the dance floor with an extremely attractive person with no room in between the two of you half way across the globe from your mate, is not likely going to be perceived in the best light. This becomes exponentially a divisive issue, if pictures surfaced to the media six months prior coupled up with another exceptionally striking individual. And subsequent of the picture release the eye-catching being confirmed you grabbed a typically off-limits body part.

Your flirtatious acts subjected your partner to unnecessary humiliation and scrutiny on your relationship. Loosely engaging in similar activities again, when the jury is still out on your innocence of your flirtatious intentions, is disrespectful. This extends beyond public figures, while everyone can acknowledge you as the office flirt and you honor your title as much as your title they actually pay you for; when your efforts become derogatory and provocative to others you are disrespecting your mate as well as the subjects to your enticing acts.

Flirters Proceed With Caution!

Innocent expressions of amour and engaging in socially fun activities with someone else that is not your spouse is acceptable by many. But there is a thin line between flirting and disrespect. So Beware! Flirters engage at your own risk! Hopefully you can decipher between expressing a compliment, engaging in fun picture-taking and dancing from aggressive, serial complimenting, lewd behavior and distasteful frisk.

What Level of Flirtatious Behavior Would You Tolerate From Your Mate?

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Can a Meaningful Relationship Thrive from a One-Night Stand?

Can a Meaningful Relationship Thrive from a One-Night Stand?

 

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Scene:

You and your girlfriends are at a club enjoying the DJ beats. You separate yourself from your crew and begin to strut all your goodness to the bar to purchase a cocktail. A gent approaches you and ask your vitals: name, status, and whereabout in New York City Metro area you reside. Both of you are physically attracted to each other. He offers to buy you that Ciroc Amaretto on the rocks you were about to splurge on yourself.  You graciously accept. Both of you continue to engage in small talk. The DJ begins to turn up the music. That handsome gent that has his eyes fixated on you takes your hand and walks you away from the bar close to the DJ. Your hips begin to swerve in your tight mini-dress as he checks you out with your hand-held in his. The guy maintains an arm’s-length distance. However, eyes are pierced on your hips and how they move so well to the tunes.

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You become more comfortable, your buttox and hips now begin to caress his paints as they percolate to the beat. Not standing out as other couples are also twerking to the beat. His hands become more comfortable in caressing your silhouette. His strong hands feel soothing to your skin and him palming your rear just nicely in your mini-skirt gives you the chills. You are intertwined in a grind fest on the dance floor.

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The questions begin to divert on the plans to get home. He mentions how he drove to the venue and offers to take you home. You let him know you don’t think so and you both return to the dance floor. The dancing between you two resumes its hot and heavy pace. You are re-thinking that offer, his closeness feels so comfortable. You acknowledge that there is definitely great sexual chemistry between the two of you. You don’t want the moment to cease. You agree to allow him to take you home. In the car, he can’t keep his hands off of you. Kisses are exchanged. You agree to go to his place. Despite his addiction to getting close with you he is a complete gentleman. He assures you that he digs your entire vibe. Your feelings are mutual. Upon arriving at his place, you seal the deal.

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The next morning, both decide to go for Round 2 and share in breakfast before he drops you off at home.

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Prior to leaving, you ask if you both will remain in contact. He comforts you and says Yes. You begin the walk of shame to the car door and he drops you off to your place.

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You really like this guy and now begin to fret and wonder if you blew it because you gave up the goods too quickly. You hope the guy realize that is not how you normally roll and that you were just so into him, you couldn’t resist. Could something meaningful come from this, you ask yourself. You conclude in your mind that it can, you two are both mature adults.

My Perspective:

Pros:

It is all about perception. If the guy is a true gentleman and perceived you as a classy woman when he met you….he probably still does. He does not romp around with anyone himself. He likely felt the same chemistry as you did. Plus if the loving was great, the man will likely return for another round. As a woman, you know your own judgment of character. There was something that made him the exception to the rule. Thus a budding relationship from your one night freak-fest is possible.

Cons:

Both of you enjoyed each other’s, which will likely prompt seeing each other again. However, what really did you learn of each other beyond sex, that make the two of you compatible as a couple? The next date you will likely enjoy.. But if you are in the market in looking for a husband, you could not possibly know that the man you are romping around possesses all of the qualities that you aspire in your future mate. Likewise for him. So while subsequent dates may happen, it may be short-lived. Exclusivity status may not be achieved. He may be dating two or three other chicks and getting to know them the same way he is with you. Or you may just get caught up in the wonderful sex and realize that this guy is not as great as you thought. Not husband material.

Jury Still Out!

Waiting two or three dates or the “famous” Steve Harvey’s 90-day rule may result in the same outcome. In dating, there is nothing guaranteed. Two people are getting to know each other. Having a one-night stand with an awesome guy that leads to a great dating journey but not a happy ending is okay. We all learn our lessons. There is a risk that a relationship may not thrive from any first encounter with someone. Think of the numbers you exchange when stepping out. How many result in follow-up calls, dates and relationships? While sexual intimacy may definitely get you the follow-up call and subsequent date it may not lead to exclusivity in a relationship. So preserve your goodies until at least you know the guy is looking for something serious and not just out enjoying the dating circuit. On the contrary, there are many lasting relationships and marriages that thrived from the infamous one-night stand. It is all about the person’s state and present focus in life. If you could learn that over a few cocktails and dances, then press on.

What are your thoughts? Have you been able to have a sustainable relationship after a one-night romp?