I came across this interesting article about a single mom’s dating struggles on Evan Marc Katz’s site. In her case men are interested…but only for a potential good time not for a relationship as they are in to her but do not want the responsibilities of dealing with the children and ex-husband. This woman’s experience and Evan’s advice is my reality of my date-life as a divorcee. My approach to dating has evolved like Evan’s advice suggests. I shifted from dating men without any attachments to the 40-something divorced with kids. However, the challenge remains on the ultimate time you are available compared to a woman who has no responsibilities. The divorced are enjoying their new post-marriage life and well…. the journey continues. So I say just be happy within, enjoy life’s blessings, your sprouts and eventually one day maybe the perfect match will come. But don’t waste your pretty dwelling on it. Enjoy this read my Single Mommies!
Thought this was a great article from goodmenproject.com Thought I share enjoy!
This is a very great read and accurate from Black And Married With Kids.com. Sometimes us as women forget these are the most important characteristics you can offer the love of your life. Failed marriages, usually lack one or more of these qualities. As a previously married woman, it is tough to adhere to these qualities when in the midst of a storm. Enjoy.
When a man is ready for marriage, there are specific things he looks for in a woman before he decides to commit. Typically, he keeps the criteria for his ideal woman close to he vest. Continue reading Ready For Wife Life: 5 Things Your Future Husband Wished You Knew
“Chemistry. If You Have Chemistry. You Only Need One Other Thing. Timing.”
So I ask a guy friend: Why would you jeopardize a potential promising relationship with a woman that meets all of your requirements, have an instant click with that has your best interest in mind?
His Answer: TIMING! Why would a guy stop his fun before he is ready for it to stop. There are plenty of fish in the sea….For a guy to stop his fun, he has to be ready for a relationship.
This is not the first time hearing this….
Last week a discussion with another guy friend. I wanted feedback on his experience with dating me….so I can find ways to improve myself.
His Feedback: Your a great person with wonderful qualities.
My Rebuttal: I have heard that from men before…If I have such wonderful qualities, why did we stop dating?
His Answer: TIMING!
Moral of the story: If you want an exclusive relationship with someone that will prosper into a happy ending. Ask the right questions. See where they are at in life, in terms of career, wanting a family and building an empire with someone.
Fact Check: Now I know men don’t want to hear this… If the guy is telling you what they want you to here….do your research. Pay attention to their actions. Consistency is key. Is he opening up about his life, is he bringing you into his life. Are you seeing the gent on the weekends and weekdays?
Demand Honesty: You do not want to be the chick on his “Rotation Belt of Women”. A true dude will tell you if he is in search of a relationship or not. It is up to you to want to continue to pursue more from him than what he is willing to give or just move yourself from his Chess Game and develop a platonic friendship.
Many times when you meet a great gent that shows genuine interest but doesn’t want to pursue a relationship, it really is all about “TIMING”.
Summer is my favorite season. Sun-bathing, beach-time, brunching and enjoying the sun-rays. Everyone is out and about in their summer whites and brights. Splash time with the sprouts. However, Fall is where I tend to be more focused. I think it is just the Back-to-school mentality that is engrained in my brain from my many years in school. Continue reading Summer Endings Lead To New Fall Beginnings!
On the July 13th episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, 30 year-old reality star Khloe Kardashian continues to deal with the demise of her marriage with estranged husband 34 year-old professional basketball player Lamar Odom. During the episode she reveals that she knew Lamar cheated on her while they were married.
“He’s now wearing his ring full time”
“F–k your ring. You were wearing it when you were f—ing someone, too.”
Later on in the episode she receives a text from one of Odom’s Continue reading Khloe Opens Up About Lamar Odom Cheating During A Melt Down on KUWTK- My Insights!
Thought I share this article from elitedaily.com. Thought the article conveyed the current state of women’s frustration with dating and was uplifting as a reminder there are plenty of fish at sea. Enjoy!
This is for all the women who’ve ever been second to “GTA,” a pick-up game of basketball, and the strip club on 61st and 10th. It’s for every girl who has ever felt used, cheated or under-appreciated. It’s for every woman who has been put in a slot and taken out only when he was ready to play.
It’s for all the people who have ever felt like they were making a priority out of someone who only saw them as an option.
If he tells you upfront that he can’t commit to you, then it’s on you, right? You shouldn’t have asked for something he couldn’t give. You shouldn’t have assumed that he wanted to give you his full attention. You shouldn’t have been so goddamn needy. Continue reading All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes
As the one-year anniversary approaches to the Judge’s final consent to officially end my seven-year plus marriage….I can’t help to reflect on what a whirlwind year it has been. My temperament and experiences varied from exhilarating to at times feeling depressed. Taking a step back and studying my behavior from last summer until now… I can break out this past year in different behavioral patterns. The phase of healing from the love and union of my marriage was predominately experienced from my divorce decision to the end of the filing process. The progression in the past year can be broken into 4 distinct phases- Embracing Independence, Desperation in Not Being a Perpetual Single Divorcee, Lonely and Reclusive Period, and Embracing Reality and Loving Me Phase.
In this week’s issue of People Magazine, Michael Douglas speaks about marriage during his interview promoting his new romantic comedy co-starring Diane Keaton “And So It Goes”. This follows a year of him and his spouse Catherine Zeta-Jones restoring their marriage following a brief break from each other. In his marriage, there are hints of him taking his wife for granted.
“Like a lovely orchid, or anything else that’s nurtured, marriage prospers and grows, but if it’s ignored, it withers.”
“A lot of it has to do with age. When you’ve accomplished a certain amount in your career, you’re not so focused on your ambitions. It makes you appreciate – and hopefully you do that sooner rather than later – the value of your partner.”
Mother’s Day is the most important holiday for myself. This is the day that I reflect on how I brought two beautiful souls into this world and how they’re happiness and well-being trumps my own desires and needs.
Reflecting on life’s journey up to today, everything is worth it as I wake up to my children cheerful greetings of Happy Mother’s Day and Birthday wishes. It is my birthday today as well. Continue reading Being A Mom Is The Best Reward In Life! Happy Mother’s Day from Your Happily Divorcee!