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When in a relationship, at what point does flirting with someone else become blatant disrespect?
There has been much to say recently on Robin Thicke allegedly flirting with a beautiful woman in Paris after his performance at the popular spot Club 79. Various photos were taken of him dancing closely with another woman on the dance floor. This news follows a previous photo scandal that hit the media waves late summer, where pictures were taken of him close and personal with a pretty blonde woman. After photos were exposed to the media, the woman claimed that Robin Thicke squeezed her behind. See photos of Robin with woman in Paris below:
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An Honest Big Flirt!
First, I will play devil’s advocate. Some of us are just flirts at heart. Intentions are innocent. Our partners know who we are. We don’t just flirt behind their backs but also flirt while out with our spouses. There are times we enjoy festivities separate from our spouse. We take pictures and engage in dancing with platonic friends of the opposite sex while at work functions, birthday parties, receptions, and just hanging out with our ride or die crew. When spotted cutting a rug on the dance floor by an outsider, that hater runs to your mate sharing what he or she saw. Your spouse simply replies I know all about my Boo, acknowledges that his or her mate is an enormous flirt. They claim their personalities are just jovial in nature, their good-spirited heart and ease of flickering compliments to everyone gravitates attention. The spouse is confident in their union and news from outsiders does not sway their mood one bit. No insecurities exist, they are the one and only who captivates their partner’s heart. The spouse acknowledged, accepted and loved this aspect of their mates personality prior to marriage and is aware that it is part of their DNA makeup that molds him into the person he is today.
Where The Line Crosses Into Disrespect:
When the harmless compliments, gregarious engagements with the opposite sex becomes disrespectful is when more than one onlooker and/or the subject of your teasing complains that your actions are offensive. If you flirtatious acts are perceived by others as classless, rude and vulgar it is now discourteous to your partner. Your philandering needs to be toned downed or come to a halt.
Being a public figure, unfortunately the bar is raised. All of your actions are more scrutinized and controversy is deemed newsworthy. While there is nothing wrong with harmless flirting, you have to be aware that everyone is watching. Grinding on the dance floor with an extremely attractive person with no room in between the two of you half way across the globe from your mate, is not likely going to be perceived in the best light. This becomes exponentially a divisive issue, if pictures surfaced to the media six months prior coupled up with another exceptionally striking individual. And subsequent of the picture release the eye-catching being confirmed you grabbed a typically off-limits body part.
Your flirtatious acts subjected your partner to unnecessary humiliation and scrutiny on your relationship. Loosely engaging in similar activities again, when the jury is still out on your innocence of your flirtatious intentions, is disrespectful. This extends beyond public figures, while everyone can acknowledge you as the office flirt and you honor your title as much as your title they actually pay you for; when your efforts become derogatory and provocative to others you are disrespecting your mate as well as the subjects to your enticing acts.
Flirters Proceed With Caution!
Innocent expressions of amour and engaging in socially fun activities with someone else that is not your spouse is acceptable by many. But there is a thin line between flirting and disrespect. So Beware! Flirters engage at your own risk! Hopefully you can decipher between expressing a compliment, engaging in fun picture-taking and dancing from aggressive, serial complimenting, lewd behavior and distasteful frisk.
What Level of Flirtatious Behavior Would You Tolerate From Your Mate?
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