“What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else.”
― Stephanie Klein, Straight Up and Dirty: A Memoir
The mere thought of divorce terrified me. To me, divorce symbolized failure.
This is a common thought amongst married and unmarried folk alike. When speaking to my many gent and lady friends who have not yet married….this is cited as the number one reason they have not taken that plunge down the altar. They don’t want to fail….to me not giving yourself the option to experience marriage or true companionship like marriage, is limiting your growth as a person…and to me not trying epitomizes failure. Marriage to me is a beautiful experience. While my marriage did not last…..I do not think it was a failure. It allowed me to learn more about myself and grow into the wonderful woman I am today. I was able to better learn my own needs and desires from life and adjust accordingly. If given the opportunity, I would do it all over again. Cherish your marriage….and if it is not working…don’t view it as a failure but as a learning experience that will help write the exciting next chapter in your life.
When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they ‘don’t understand’ one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.