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Single-Mom Dating Woes- Not Taken Seriously- Advice from Coach Evan Marc Katz

I came across this interesting article about a single mom’s dating struggles on Evan Marc Katz’s site. In her case men are interested…but only for a potential good time not for a relationship as they are in to her but do not want the responsibilities of dealing with the children and ex-husband. This woman’s experience and Evan’s advice is my reality of my date-life as a divorcee. My approach to dating has evolved like Evan’s advice suggests. I shifted from dating men without any attachments to the 40-something divorced with kids. However, the challenge remains on the ultimate time you are available compared to a woman who has no responsibilities. The divorced are enjoying their new post-marriage life and well…. the journey continues. So I say just be happy within,  enjoy life’s blessings, your sprouts and eventually one day maybe the perfect match will come. But don’t waste your pretty dwelling on it. Enjoy this read my Single Mommies!

I’m a Single Mom Who Is Ready To Give Up On Men Because They All Want Sex.

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Why Good People Ghost: The Rise Of A Dishonest Dating Culture

I saw this article  on ThoughtCatalog and thought it was spot-on with today’s dating culture. I have been meaning to write an article on this very topic. But while lengthy, I thought it was accurate and well thought out. Enjoy everyone!

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17 Signs You’re An Option, NOT A Priority

This is an article shared from YourTango.com. Know the Signs! Take A Step Back and Look At the Situation 5,000 Feet From Above.
We hate to break it to you, but…

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If There Is Nothing On This Finger You Don’t Get Claimed! Taraji Henson speaks to Steve Harvey!

Following the rapid success of Fox TV television series “Empire” coming to it’s first season finale, actress Taraji Henson visited the Steve Harvey show and spoke about her stance on relationships. Continue reading If There Is Nothing On This Finger You Don’t Get Claimed! Taraji Henson speaks to Steve Harvey!

V-Day Bliss for the Attached, Not-Yet-Defined and Single-

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Valentine’s Day is either the much-anticipated hot date of the year for the coupled-up or the much loathed and dreaded day by the single-dom. Valentine’s Day is a signal and reminder to the unattached that they are alone and not loved by a special someone. The men who are attached feel the pressure to step up their romance game or expect to hear about their lack of efforts for months on end, so to many it because a requirement rather than a genuine effort. Those that are entrapped in the non-exclusive relationships are filled with anxiety wondering if that new guy or gal or the one who has been around for a while will want to spend the designated day for lovers with them. Not to fret, despite your status there are plenty of ways to make your Valentine’s Day blissful.

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The Happily or Not-So-Happily Singles:

Don’t sit at home watching re-runs of romantic comedies with a tissue box pondering on why you are alone on this date. Get out of the house. Arrange a date with your girlfriends- go out for cocktails and check out that new anticipated movie “Fifty Shades of Grey”. For the gents and ladies attend a Valentine’s Day Party for singles or a concert. There are an abundance of them. Getting out on the scene ramps up the possibility of meeting a potential that you can spend V-Day with next year. It sure beats staying at home.

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The Not-Yet-Defined:

Keep it light. You do not have to reserve a four-course dinner reservation, send flowers and splurge on an expensive gift. If not quite sure your “not-yet-defined” lover or mate is exclusive to only you, then arrange a less formal evening the night before or after V-Day. Enjoy each other’s company over after-work cocktails, watch a movie or have a two to three star restaurant meal. This lets the person know that they are cared for and you are accepting of the no boundaries relationship that currently exists. Let your not-yet-exclusive mate keep their V-Day open. If you are lucky maybe the two of you will get to spend two evenings with each other. If the relationship is still new, how about arranging a group gathering. An eventful evening out dancing with other co-ed friends is sure to be a great time.

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The Attached:

Now fellas you have once a year to show your “A” game (okay maybe twice, there is anniversary too). If you are in love with your woman, why not make this day and/or night exceptional. Now I understand everyone has different budgets. But you can have a special evening without breaking your wallet. A home-cooked meal and a bottle of wine is always wonderful. Follow that with a gift-wrapped box of pleasures that are soothing to your eyes and soft on her skin is always a win-win for both parties. Woman love romantic comedies and really appreciate a man who is willing to accommodate and watch a movie with them. A night out dancing, his and her massages are also great idea, followed by a great meal.

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Don’t Forget The Men:

While Valentine’s Day is known to be geared to the ladies, men need to feel appreciated too. While I feel the guy should be making the dinner reservations, the woman needs to make her man feel special. Make sure you reciprocate the generosity.  Be prepared with a  small gift and card. A bottle of cologne is always great.

Depending on the tenure of your relationship, determines the type of gift. The staple is at least a card. Do not show up empty-handed. A Valentine’s Day card whether humorous, sappy, or in-between is an ultimate requirement. The flowers and gifts are optional, but the card is a must. Now if you have some relationship history, splurge on the roses. She deserves them.

Reflecting on my most memorable V-Day moments, they were always the simple and creative ones. A fancy dinner is wonderful, but a home-cooked dinner or a picnic at a park has always been my favorite.

V-Day Bliss for the Attached, Not-Yet-Defined and Single…Which Are You? How Will You Spend V-Day? 

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Valentine’s Day is either the much-anticipated hot date of the year for the coupled-up or the much loathed and dreaded day by the single-dom. Valentine’s Day is a signal and reminder to the unattached that they are alone and not loved by a special someone. The men who are attached feel the pressure to step up their romance game or expect to hear about their lack of efforts for months on end, so to many it because a requirement rather than a genuine effort. Those that are entrapped in the non-exclusive relationships are filled with anxiety wondering if that new guy or gal or the one who has been around for a while will want to spend the designated day for lovers with them. Not to fret, despite your status there are plenty of ways to make your Valentine’s Day blissful.

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Photo Source: http://www.everythinggirlslove.com

The Happily or Not-So-Happily Singles:

Don’t sit at home watching re-runs of romantic comedies with a tissue box pondering on why you are alone on this date. Get out of the house. Arrange a date with your girlfriends- go out for cocktails and check out that new anticipated movie “About Last Night”  starring scrumptuous Michael Ealy. For the gents and ladies attend a Valentine’s Day Party for singles or a concert. There are an abundance of them. Getting out on the scene ramps up the possibility of meeting a potential that you can spend V-Day with next year. It sure beats staying at home.

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Photo Source: http://www.wallpoper.com

The Not-Yet-Defined:

Keep it light. You do not have to reserve a four-course dinner reservation, send flowers and splurge on an expensive gift. If not quite sure your “not-yet-defined” lover or mate is exclusive to only you, then arrange a less formal evening the night before or after V-Day. Enjoy each other’s company over after-work cocktails, watch a movie or have a two to three star restaurant meal. This lets the person know that they are cared for and you are accepting of the no boundaries relationship that currently exists. Let your not-yet-exclusive mate keep their V-Day open. If you are lucky maybe the two of you will get to spend two evenings with each other. If the relationship is still new, how about arranging a group gathering. An eventful evening out dancing with other co-ed friends is sure to be a great time.

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Photo Source: http://www.self.com

The Attached:

Now fellas you have once a year to show your “A” game (okay maybe twice, there is anniversary too). If you are in love with your woman, why not make this day and/or night exceptional. Now I understand everyone has different budgets. But you can have a special evening without breaking your wallet. A home-cooked meal and a bottle of wine is always wonderful. Follow that with a gift-wrapped box of pleasures that are soothing to your eyes and soft on her skin is always a win-win for both parties. Woman love romantic comedies and really appreciate a man who is willing to accommodate and watch a movie with them. A night out dancing, his and her massages are also great idea, followed by a great meal.

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Photo Source: http://www.allhiphop.com

Don’t Forget The Men:

While Valentine’s Day is known to be geared to the ladies, men need to feel appreciated too. While I feel the guy should be making the dinner reservations, the woman needs to make her man feel special. Make sure you reciprocate the generosity.  Be prepared with a  small gift and card. A bottle of cologne is always great.

Depending on the tenure of your relationship, determines the type of gift. The staple is at least a card. Do not show up empty-handed. A Valentine’s Day card whether humorous, sappy, or in-between is an ultimate requirement. The flowers and gifts are optional, but the card is a must. Now if you have some relationship history, splurge on the roses. She deserves them.

Reflecting on my most memorable V-Day moments, they were always the simple and creative ones. A fancy dinner is wonderful, but a home-cooked dinner or a picnic at a park has always been my favorite.

V-Day Bliss for the Attached, Not-Yet-Defined and Single…Which Are You? How Will You Spend V-Day? 

5 Can’t-Argue-With Reasons To Date A Single Mom

I thought this article on YourTango.com was absolutely great and to the point. Similar to a few articles already posted here: Perks In Dating A Divorcee, 5 Things You Should Know In Dating a Divorce Woman- A Professional Perspective, My Insights!; Should A Guy Be Accepting of Not Being #1 Priority When Dating A Single Mom. While it re-iterates what the articles I previously posted….It is always great to hear these views from multiple sources. This is definitely for the gents who do not realize the value in dating a Single Mom and/or Divorcee! Enjoy!

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Your Too Controlling (And 2 Other Reasons Your Still Single)

This is a great article I found on “Your Tango”. This is insight to those that are single in search of being attached in the future. 
The signs you’re just not ready for true love … yet.

Everybody enjoys being loved, but many struggle to embrace it as they should. You may be one of those people, and up to this point, you may not have accepted that fact. You are certainly not alone in your struggle, and now it’s time to gain some clarity on this possible issue. So continue to read and be prepared to do some self reflection. Here are three signs you’re not ready for true love. Continue reading Your Too Controlling (And 2 Other Reasons Your Still Single)

10 Things I’ve Learned From Partying With Divorcées in Their 40s

To the point humor in concise form to my fellow divorcees!

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1. You share the same appreciation for great music.

When you mess up the lyrics to “Roxanne” during karaoke, they got your back.

2. They have kids your age.

They don’t want you anywhere near their kids because you’re either the bad influence, or you’ll tell them how bad of an influence their parents are.

3. Your parents are their age.

Same principle.

4. They regret settling down so young.

They were around your age, actually.

5. Just like you, they, too, picture themselves leaving with the hot 25-year-old bartender.

Just look at him.

6. You’re never too old to sneak in alcohol.

They’re just better at hiding their flasks than you are. They also claim to have coined the term “BYOB.”

7. Alcohol bridges age gaps.

Gracìas, Señor Cuervo! (Or is that Señior Cuervo?)

8. Unlike your generation, they didn’t post all the stupid shit they did on the…

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Summer Endings Lead To New Fall Beginnings!

Summer is my favorite season. Sun-bathing, beach-time, brunching and  enjoying the sun-rays. Everyone is out and about in their summer whites and brights. Splash time with the sprouts. However, Fall is where I tend to be more focused. I think it is just the Back-to-school mentality that is engrained in my brain from my many years in school. Continue reading Summer Endings Lead To New Fall Beginnings!