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Why Good People Ghost: The Rise Of A Dishonest Dating Culture

I saw this article  on ThoughtCatalog and thought it was spot-on with today’s dating culture. I have been meaning to write an article on this very topic. But while lengthy, I thought it was accurate and well thought out. Enjoy everyone!

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Is It All About Timing? Gotta Get A Man When Their Light Is On Like A New York Taxi?

I was watching an episode of “Sex And The City” and there is a scene where Miranda explains to Charlotte, that what she has is not true love, is just that the man she is dating is ready for marriage. I could not help to reflect on my friends and my own dating experiences. Continue reading Is It All About Timing? Gotta Get A Man When Their Light Is On Like A New York Taxi?

The Alpha Woman’s Struggle!

A few days ago I shared an article that was posted on EliteDaily.com Ladies, The Smarter You Are, The More Likely You Are To Be Single  I had a personal connection and resonated with the author’s tone in her article.  I deem myself as intelligent, independent and strong. While warm-spirited and fun-loving and uninhibited to life’s offerings, all characteristics that gents initially love about me, I am Continue reading The Alpha Woman’s Struggle!

Sitting At A Bar Alone- The Ritual Of A Divorcee

Weekday evenings are typical of me dropping at a local hot spot alone. The babysitter is with the kids. When unable to fill time with friends or a possible date and my workload is light. This is my ritual. I don’t relieve the sitter until at least 8 pm. I completed my workout during lunch break so what do I do to fill that gap time? Why it may Continue reading Sitting At A Bar Alone- The Ritual Of A Divorcee

All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes

Thought I share this article from elitedaily.com. Thought the article conveyed the current state of women’s frustration with dating and was uplifting as a reminder there are plenty of fish at sea. Enjoy!

This is for all the women who’ve ever been second to “GTA,” a pick-up game of basketball, and the strip club on 61st and 10th. It’s for every girl who has ever felt used, cheated or under-appreciated. It’s for every woman who has been put in a slot and taken out only when he was ready to play.

It’s for all the people who have ever felt like they were making a priority out of someone who only saw them as an option.

If he tells you upfront that he can’t commit to you, then it’s on you, right? You shouldn’t have asked for something he couldn’t give. You shouldn’t have assumed that he wanted to give you his full attention. You shouldn’t have been so goddamn needy. Continue reading All Or Nothing: I Will Not Be Any Man’s Half-Time, Down-Time, Spare-Time Or Sometimes

“Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

The other day I read this quick read book titled “Flag On The Play- A Woman’s Guide To Finding Mr. Right In A World Full Of Right Nows” written by Dena Reid Esq. with Mandee Burgess who is also one of the creators of the social website CodeRedFlag.com. I truly thought it was a great quick read, insightful and allowed me to reminiscence on certain signs I have encountered through my dating life that I fell for or my girlfriends  have in the past and present and caution me on certain actions from prospective gents. The book provides thorough analysis of several real-life scenarios where the author and reader point out signs from the gent’s actions that indicate he may not be “Keeper Material”

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The book breaks down 10 characters a woman should avoid:

1) Mr. Hudson River Valley: Separated Means Married– Whoa! I seem to run in these guys everywhere.  I remember meeting a guy who was going through a divorce in my mid-20’s..I didn’t know where Continue reading “Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

The Freshly Divorced Phase- My One Year Recap! Independence, Dating, Laughter, Sadness, and Confidence.

As the one-year anniversary approaches to the Judge’s final consent to officially end my seven-year plus marriage….I can’t help to reflect on what a whirlwind year it has been. My temperament and experiences varied from exhilarating to at times feeling depressed. Taking a step back and studying my behavior from last summer until now… I can break out this past year in different behavioral patterns. The  phase of healing from the love and union of my marriage was predominately experienced from my divorce decision to the end of the filing process.  The progression in the past year can be broken into 4 distinct phases- Embracing Independence, Desperation in Not Being a Perpetual Single Divorcee, Lonely and Reclusive Period, and Embracing Reality and Loving Me Phase.

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Spike Lee: Do The Right Thing Block Party!

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Summer-time in Brooklyn! Echoes of laughter,  flocks of happy-spirited folk, good music blasting from the mega speakers with the DJ Continue reading Spike Lee: Do The Right Thing Block Party!

Just One Of Those Days- The 4th of July Weekend Child Custody Battle!

Now I advocate fostering a positive co-parenting relationship. For the most part I get it right. But there are times I become completely frustrated. The battle of managing our parenting with our newly “fabulous” single lives. Continue reading Just One Of Those Days- The 4th of July Weekend Child Custody Battle!

OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!

So I have further ventured out in online dating. A few days ago I signed up for OKCupid! a free online dating site. Prior to that I was only using one source for the past couple months eHarmony- a paid online dating site.

A co-worker who was divorced recommended me to try online dating and thought eHarmony would be good. Her stance was that she met her second husband there, and thought the selection of mates were reputable. Basically, men willing to pay for an online service, weeds out the gents that are on there for just games. Continue reading OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!