I came across this interesting article about a single mom’s dating struggles on Evan Marc Katz’s site. In her case men are interested…but only for a potential good time not for a relationship as they are in to her but do not want the responsibilities of dealing with the children and ex-husband. This woman’s experience and Evan’s advice is my reality of my date-life as a divorcee. My approach to dating has evolved like Evan’s advice suggests. I shifted from dating men without any attachments to the 40-something divorced with kids. However, the challenge remains on the ultimate time you are available compared to a woman who has no responsibilities. The divorced are enjoying their new post-marriage life and well…. the journey continues. So I say just be happy within, enjoy life’s blessings, your sprouts and eventually one day maybe the perfect match will come. But don’t waste your pretty dwelling on it. Enjoy this read my Single Mommies!
This is a question I have eternally struggled with on more than one occasion. There is a struggle between maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship for your children’s sake and attaining your own happiness as a single woman with aspirations of finding a second chance in love.
My post-divorced dating experience as a single mom has been quite interesting and intuitive. I have dated gents that have yet to start a family and gents that are divorced and/or single fathers. I have not discriminated and have experienced a couple of great connections from both sides of the camp. From my dating experience here are a few observations. Continue reading Dating As A Single-Mom: Team: Gent w/ Kids or Team: Gent w/o Kids
“There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.”
― C. JoyBell C.
Mother’s Day is the most important holiday for myself. This is the day that I reflect on how I brought two beautiful souls into this world and how they’re happiness and well-being trumps my own desires and needs.
Reflecting on life’s journey up to today, everything is worth it as I wake up to my children cheerful greetings of Happy Mother’s Day and Birthday wishes. It is my birthday today as well. Continue reading Being A Mom Is The Best Reward In Life! Happy Mother’s Day from Your Happily Divorcee!
Yesterday was the premiere opening of Tyler Perry’s “The Single Mom’s Club”. All month I have been eagerly anticipating in seeing this movie. Afterall the movie epitomizes my current life situation Continue reading Tyler Perry’s “The Single Mom’s Club” My Insights!
All right…now this is a bit trifling. Apparently according to Blacksportsonline, Dwayne Wade’s new baby mother Aja Metoyer apparently wrote a letter back in February addressing her affair with Dwayne Wade. Now I know my earlier post was defending relationship breaks….but only if it is a true break away from the relationship mutually agreed upon by both parties. Blacksportsonline shared an excerpt from part of the open letter addressed to Gabrielle Union:
So it’s only right I put Dwyane Wade on blast. First and foremost i’d like to thank ***** Wade, his cousin for booking my numerous of flights.
Ohh yea, hi Ms. Union. Good too see you stuck around and have a few more pieces of clothing inside of his house. The kitchen looks great by the way. I love the new counter tops. I would also like to thank Rich, the chef for his amazing breakfast. His cookies are the best.
And last but not least I’d like to thank Dwayne for always making me feel comfortable on your side of the bed. Hiding pictures in your drawer. You know the night stand next to your side of the bed, the one with the two drawers. Think the picture is the one with you and Sanaa Lathan in it.
Also Gabrielle you are a little to old to be making Valentines day Photo albums. Leave that to the young girls your man cheats on you with. Dont believe me, I took a picture of the picture.
FYI your man likes fat asses you might need to get you one. Last but not least. I will send you a picture of the bags your man left in the hotel room i f*cked him in. lol
The letter is classless and disrespectful. What man would take a woman seriously that is spiteful and would send such a letter to your woman or ex for that matter. Doesn’t she know that woman is going to confront her man or ex-man of this and the only one who is going to look immature is her.
Sounds like from the contents of the letter, that Dwayne Wade and Gabby Union were not having that long of a relationship break if Dwayne has pictures still up by his bedside. But that is not for me to judge.
The message is to all of the side chicks out there….if you do want a chance of being the number one chick….a letter to your dude’s ex is not going to help you up those ranks. That letter was probably the realization point that he needs to get rid of this trash and return to his treasure.
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Okay there has been more than enough buzz since the media found out that basketball player Dwayne Wade fathered a child (now three-month old) with Aja Metoyer (alleged known Groupie- a woman who has persistent relationships with celebrities) during a break from his long-term intimate relationship with his new fiancee, actress Gabrielle Union. Now it turns out Ludacris also fathered a child while on a temporary hiatus from longtime girlfriend Eudoxie. Apparently, the child was born early December and is approximately one-month old.
When two people decide to take a break from a relationship whether temporary or permanent….they are entitled to live their lives as a single woman or man. Meaning, in my opinion entitled and free to do as they please. Two individuals wanting a break means they are not ready to pursue a relationship or move forward the already established relationship they have with each other. While on hiatus, the ex boyfriend or girlfriend may seek sexual and emotional satisfaction from someone else. This is not infidelity, vows have not been shared. A serious or not so serious connection can be established with another woman or man. While Dwayne Wade and Ludacris may need a lesson or two on safe sex practices, engaging in sexual intimacy while separated from their girlfriend/fiancée is not wrong. Sometimes engaged in other relationships while separate from your ex-boo allows you to appreciate the relationship and qualities you and your ex-boo shared and possesses.
In some cases two people drift back to each other rekindling their deep emotional bond as more mature adults. This could be after months of partying, focusing on career, or just getting all of the single’itis out of their system. Gabby and Dwayne…..discussed their break from each other and Dwayne’s mistake that led to a precious treasure. She has accepted her man despite his flaws and the new addition to their future family. She is all good…and content with her bling bling. The same can be said for Eudoxie. As the two were seen together happy as they shared in the New Year together.
Hey, not everyone can have the sequentially desired mating lifestyle. Boy meets girl, date, get engaged, married then have offspring. Love is blind. Sometimes, there are kids from other baby mommies and daddies….including while you are on relationship break from your mate.
What Are Your Thoughts? Would You Rekindle A Relationship With An Ex Despite Him Fathering A Child With Another Woman or Having A Child With Another Man?