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These Heaux’s Ain’t Loyal! Really?

There is much discussion on R&B/ Pop singer Chris Brown’s popular song “These Hoes Ain’t Loyal! Many men praise the song and women scowl at the chorus.  Chris Brown’s catchy song basically insinuates that a woman would leave a broke man for a rich man who wants her as depicted in the video below.

Warning: Explicit language

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Dating Advice From A Man To Help You Rock Your First Date!


Here what guest blogger Patrick Banks who provides love and dating tips at Wingman Magazine.

Women are so hard to understand because they over analyze things. Women often think of simple issues as the worst case scenario and that’s why it is so hard to win a battle with you. Although you may be the most complicated beings, you are also so charming and pretty that a normal, warm-blooded male would want to have a mate to be with at some point in their life. Continue reading Dating Advice From A Man To Help You Rock Your First Date!

“Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

The other day I read this quick read book titled “Flag On The Play- A Woman’s Guide To Finding Mr. Right In A World Full Of Right Nows” written by Dena Reid Esq. with Mandee Burgess who is also one of the creators of the social website CodeRedFlag.com. I truly thought it was a great quick read, insightful and allowed me to reminiscence on certain signs I have encountered through my dating life that I fell for or my girlfriends  have in the past and present and caution me on certain actions from prospective gents. The book provides thorough analysis of several real-life scenarios where the author and reader point out signs from the gent’s actions that indicate he may not be “Keeper Material”


The book breaks down 10 characters a woman should avoid:

1) Mr. Hudson River Valley: Separated Means Married– Whoa! I seem to run in these guys everywhere.  I remember meeting a guy who was going through a divorce in my mid-20’s..I didn’t know where Continue reading “Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

Romance and Finance!

Written By Guest Blogger: Kolonji Murray owner/founder of TaxAssurances, LLC

For many couples, handling money together is an important part of the relationship. Sometimes the effects on it are subtle while other times they’re more obvious. There are a couple of ways of approaching the right balance. The best way really depends on what works for the harmony of the relationship. Continue reading Romance and Finance!

The Perks In Dating a Divorcee!

Across the internet there are several articles that discuss the “Beware Attributes” when dating a divorced woman. Pass those hurdles and understand her strife, you are good to go. As divorcees come with challenges, we have baggage such as children, ex-husbands, a sense of failure and unresolved anger or grief because of our circumstance. Yes, I posted a blog about the “5 Things You Should Know In Dating A Divorcee! A Professional Perspective. My Insights!”. However, it stressed all of the divorcees baggage. Well, how about the positive attributes? What makes a divorced woman a great catch? There are definite benefits in dating a woman who has experienced life and relationships. A divorcee could be the optimum choice for your lifestyle depending on the person.

Here are my positives:


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Tyler Perry’s “The Single Mom’s Club” My Insights!

Yesterday was the premiere opening of Tyler Perry’s “The Single Mom’s Club”. All month I have been eagerly anticipating in seeing this movie. Afterall the movie epitomizes my current life situation Continue reading Tyler Perry’s “The Single Mom’s Club” My Insights!

Sprouts, Divorce and Chaos! Is it Manageable?

As a recently divorced mom, I am aware that there has been change in my children’s behavior post-divorce. As much as you try to shield them from all of the drama and chaos, it is impossible to mask them from all disagreement and keep everything consistent prior to Continue reading Sprouts, Divorce and Chaos! Is it Manageable?

5 Things You Should Know In Dating a Divorced Woman- A Professional Perspective! My Insights!

Over the weekend, I read a few articles from various divorce coaches and dating blogs geared to men in dating divorced women. There was one in particular called “5 Things You Should Know In Dating a Divorce Woman” by Faydra American’s Divorce Coach which I thought was the most accurate.  It wasn’t biased, emphasizing emotional baggage or discussing the risk of the woman going back to her ex. I personally thought it was genuine and the most helpful for anyone interested in dating a divorcee. Her key take away was the Continue reading 5 Things You Should Know In Dating a Divorced Woman- A Professional Perspective! My Insights!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?

Are You Dealing with Damaged Goods? Time to Clean Out and Dispose! Let them fix themselves on their own. Until then Let Life Flow! Enjoy new beginnings and know your worth!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?.

Reciprocity-That’s All It Takes!


Many people ask what does it take for a successful and lasting relationship? There are so many dating and relationship books out there. We read them, take their suggestions and use them in our relationships. However your efforts do not benefit the relationship if only one person is committed to them. You can be more affectionate, passionate, responsive, compromise your time, take initiative, contribute to the household, but despite your effort, the relationship will not work if your efforts are not given back in return. So when someone asks me, what makes a relationship work, I say it is simple— Reciprocity!

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary the definition is as follows:


 verb \ri-ˈsi-prə-ˌkāt\

: to do (something) for or to someone who has done something similar for or to you

: to have (a feeling) for someone who has the same feeling for you

: to move back and forth again and again

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For a meaningful relationship to thrive, there has to be reciprocity from both parties. Both people have to be committed in putting forth the effort. Appreciative of your mate’s efforts  without action is not enough for sustaining a relationship. Expressing your appreciation by only words, provides some down time. But true appreciation is expressed through returning the same acts of kindness and consideration. If your mate is always considerate and checks up on you about how your day went, it should only be expected for you to reciprocate that same task…maybe you can initiate the check up for once. Your “Boo” took the day off, brought you soup and nursed you during your illness….when she or he is feeling ill, take time out of your day to return the favor. If your spouse came and was by your side to support your work-office function where you received an award, attending a concert of the band you were managing, make sure you are there for their promotion breakfast, book signing, or any other function that is special to them, despite whether it is or not on the same caliber. Your mate listens to your woes and peril, but your work schedule is too hectic to give the same ear, is not reciprocating. Nor is your mate tending to your sexual fantasies and relaxing you when your stressed, but you can’t find time just for cuddling. Or vice versa, your mate cuddles and kisses you endlessly, but you cringe in satisfying his needs..and it is only reserved for special occasions.

The key to a successful relationship is very easy..just reciprocate. While some tasks may not easy given life and career demands, acknowledging your intent and attempting to reciprocate the same appreciation and attention your mate gives as soon as you can…is putting forth the effort. Maybe you have to somehow include your significant other into your life and career flow. That business dinner, you might make it a requirement for everyone to bring spouses or extend the invitation to travel ventures where that person can explore on their own while you handle business matters. Or if that cannot be done, maybe adjusting your normal routine schedule, scaling back your time with friends to incorporate one-on-one time with your lady or gent.

If you are in a relationship and your efforts are not reciprocated over an extended period of time….excuses become redundant. It is time to walk away. Translation is that your mate does not value you or deems you that important in his life where he should reciprocate the efforts that you have made.