Tag Archives: Personals

“Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

The other day I read this quick read book titled “Flag On The Play- A Woman’s Guide To Finding Mr. Right In A World Full Of Right Nows” written by Dena Reid Esq. with Mandee Burgess who is also one of the creators of the social website CodeRedFlag.com. I truly thought it was a great quick read, insightful and allowed me to reminiscence on certain signs I have encountered through my dating life that I fell for or my girlfriends  have in the past and present and caution me on certain actions from prospective gents. The book provides thorough analysis of several real-life scenarios where the author and reader point out signs from the gent’s actions that indicate he may not be “Keeper Material”

image7-678x322

The book breaks down 10 characters a woman should avoid:

1) Mr. Hudson River Valley: Separated Means Married– Whoa! I seem to run in these guys everywhere.  I remember meeting a guy who was going through a divorce in my mid-20’s..I didn’t know where Continue reading “Flag On The Play” Book Review and Introduction To The Type Of Mr. Right Nows To Avoid- My Insights!

Advertisements

The Freshly Divorced Phase- My One Year Recap! Independence, Dating, Laughter, Sadness, and Confidence.

As the one-year anniversary approaches to the Judge’s final consent to officially end my seven-year plus marriage….I can’t help to reflect on what a whirlwind year it has been. My temperament and experiences varied from exhilarating to at times feeling depressed. Taking a step back and studying my behavior from last summer until now… I can break out this past year in different behavioral patterns. The  phase of healing from the love and union of my marriage was predominately experienced from my divorce decision to the end of the filing process.  The progression in the past year can be broken into 4 distinct phases- Embracing Independence, Desperation in Not Being a Perpetual Single Divorcee, Lonely and Reclusive Period, and Embracing Reality and Loving Me Phase.

Independent-Woman-Miss-A-Fei Continue reading The Freshly Divorced Phase- My One Year Recap! Independence, Dating, Laughter, Sadness, and Confidence.

I Own Up To My Actions!

My previous post yesterday  ruffled a few feathers on the family front.  I own up to my actions and as a blogger that has chosen to share my experiences and insights on relationships I share the positive and negative. Sometimes people don’t realize how insensitive they can be until  the scenario is written and read by them. Continue reading I Own Up To My Actions!

“Why Wait A Lifetime With One Person You Can Find In A Moment With Another?

“What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else.”
― Stephanie Klein, Straight Up and Dirty: A Memoir

Continue reading “Why Wait A Lifetime With One Person You Can Find In A Moment With Another?

OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!

So I have further ventured out in online dating. A few days ago I signed up for OKCupid! a free online dating site. Prior to that I was only using one source for the past couple months eHarmony- a paid online dating site.

A co-worker who was divorced recommended me to try online dating and thought eHarmony would be good. Her stance was that she met her second husband there, and thought the selection of mates were reputable. Basically, men willing to pay for an online service, weeds out the gents that are on there for just games. Continue reading OK Cupid! Optimism in Online Dating!

Happily Unmarried? Wow, Say It Isn’t So! When Expectations Are Thrown Out The Window!

Today a light bulb click. As I nurse a cold, just finished moving old furniture with my ex and waiting for new furniture to arrive which didn’t…. Well, that is another story…had to use expletive language Continue reading Happily Unmarried? Wow, Say It Isn’t So! When Expectations Are Thrown Out The Window!

Is Social Media Ruining Your Marriage/Relationship and Can It Be Held Against You In Divorce Court?

Social media, while innocent it may be sharing your life experiences and viewpoints to the world, is never private. This is despite measures you take in enabling privacy settings against outside public Continue reading Is Social Media Ruining Your Marriage/Relationship and Can It Be Held Against You In Divorce Court?

How Is Your Dating Text Game?

woman-texting

The dating scene has revolutionized since my pre-married days. Texting was in the primary stage in the mid -2000s. It had not yet replaced the traditional phone conversation. Nowadays re-entering the dating scene now divorced, texting is the fore-front of all dating connection.Text-messaging is the main form of communication with family, friends, flirting with the opposite sex and courting a prospective lifelong partner. Continue reading How Is Your Dating Text Game?

Sometimes It Is Not Holding On That Provides Strength, But Letting Go!

images (59)

Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.

-Herman Hesse

Letting go of people  in your life that do not uplift or benefit you but deflate your spirit despite shared history is a sign of strength. You  may feel at times you may owe it to the person or the connection each of you share with each other to hold on, ride the rough patch out. But sometimes that rough patch is too rugged that it stifles your own personal growth. It is not worth mending, or you are the only one trying to smooth and buffer the situation and/or relationship. Let it go! How can you move forward into the new and discover the greatness you deserve if you have not let go of the damaged goods.

Sometimes letting go, also showcases if something was really there in the first place. The other person taking the other one for granted may recognize this and decides to put forth the effort in mending, smoothing and buffering.  Unfortunately, though at times it maybe too late. The other person may have moved forward and is living a fulfilling life with no need for interruption.

images (58)

Embrace your inner strength, move forward and let go! Let Life Flow! YOLO!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?

Are You Dealing with Damaged Goods? Time to Clean Out and Dispose! Let them fix themselves on their own. Until then Let Life Flow! Enjoy new beginnings and know your worth!

Damaged Goods…Ruined or Fixable?.